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DD aged 4 sharing parents' bedroom

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MarchelineWhatNot Tue 31-May-16 15:53:17

We live in a tiny 2 up 2 down house which we rent from a private landlord. Our son has his own room and myself, DH & DD share the other bedroom. DD is always asking for her own room and I feel really sorry for her as I know she would keep it really nice and tidy.

Unfortunately, we cannot afford to move. We are stretched to the limit financially and I already commute 90 mins both ways (3 hours per day) for work so moving further out of the city is just not an option. We have pets as well so can't move into a flat.

So we're stuck. But I feel really sad for DD. Is it so bad for her to share our room? Is anybody else in this situation and if so, how do you handle it?


Buggers Tue 31-May-16 15:57:14

How old is your son?

MarchelineWhatNot Tue 31-May-16 15:59:12

DS is 11.

seeyounearertime Tue 31-May-16 15:59:38

why arent the children in one room and the adults in the other?

formerbabe Tue 31-May-16 16:00:54

Do you have 2 reception rooms downstairs? If so could you turn one into your bedroom and your dd could have your current one?

PotteringAlong Tue 31-May-16 16:01:01

You need a long term plan. 4 is fine; 14 is not going to work.

KingJoffreyLikesJaffaCakes Tue 31-May-16 16:01:13

Spilt the biggest room in half with bookcases?

Is that an option?

seeyounearertime Tue 31-May-16 16:01:13

have you thought about changing one of the downstirs room sinto a bedroom for you and OH?
but of a ball ache but you can get decent pull out beds from Ikea.

PPie10 Tue 31-May-16 16:01:43

Many, many people don't have the luxury of each child having their own room. There's nothing bad about it and also nothing to feel guilty about. It is just what it is. Your DD won't be scarred in anyway. But why aren't the kids sharing and you and DH in your own room?

Buggers Tue 31-May-16 16:02:36

Oh his a bit old to share then, you haven't got a dining room to turn into a room or anything like that?

MarchelineWhatNot Tue 31-May-16 16:02:59

We only have a lounge room and kitchen downstairs. And the lounge room is tiny. As is the kitchen, we can't even fit a table in it.

HermioneJeanGranger Tue 31-May-16 16:03:34

Can you not divide DS's room in two with curtains?

MarchelineWhatNot Tue 31-May-16 16:04:13

DS's room is - again - tiny. They would have to have bunk beds.

ChicRock Tue 31-May-16 16:04:22

It's borderline at the point where it's no longer fair or doable.

What are your plans for when she's 8, 12, 16?

My first thought is get rid of the pets - as that's one of the reasons you've given for not being able to move.

PotteringAlong Tue 31-May-16 16:04:53

Sofa bed in the lounge for you and DH?

katemiddletonsnudeheels Tue 31-May-16 16:05:12

I think you need to have a sofa bed downstairs for you and your husband. I appreciate its not ideal but it can't be ideal at the moment either.

PotteringAlong Tue 31-May-16 16:05:28

And yes; get rid of the pets. You can't afford them apart from anything else.

formerbabe Tue 31-May-16 16:05:45

Could you and your dh have your son's room and your dd and ds share your current room with room dividers?

RubyGates Tue 31-May-16 16:06:24

Can you use a sofa bed in the living room for you and DH? You could keep your clothes storage in the double bedroom but it would free-up most of it for your DD.

witsender Tue 31-May-16 16:06:33

It is ok at the mo, but not long term. Either get a sofa bed or lose the pets I'm afraid.

MarchelineWhatNot Tue 31-May-16 16:06:48

The kids would be devastated if we got rid of our pets, we've had them for years.

I don't have a long-term plan. I always hoped we might buy somewhere, but that's never gonna happen.

witsender Tue 31-May-16 16:07:25

Or swap rooms.

Chippednailvarnishing Tue 31-May-16 16:08:04

What's wrong with bunk beds? It got to better than a child sharing with her parents.

MarchelineWhatNot Tue 31-May-16 16:08:41

Basically all the rooms are tiny.

19lottie82 Tue 31-May-16 16:09:11

The kids may be devastated yes, but what happens when your DD hits puberty and needs privacy? She can't go on sharing a room with her parents. That's more important than pets I'm afraid.

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