We've just had our anniversary and my brother-in-law bought my husband a present but not me. Let me explain that my husband's business has dried up and I'm supporting the family financially. My husband does his fair share of childcare and domestic work, so no complaints there. My brother-in-law is well aware of this situation, and while I know he bought the gift, a pair of expensive shoes, to cheer his brother up, when as a couple we cannot afford to go out for a dinner to celebrate it feels pretty insensitive. But then I've never really been made to feel part of the family - and this becomes especially apparent during those gift-giving occasions.
At Christmas they buy us a 'joint' gift, usually something my husband wants like this year box sets - but my husband is also given an extra present while I'm not. Our daughter's birthday is the day after mine, so I don't get acknowledged. Since we've been together I've always bought lovely gifts for his family, sent his mother flowers to say thank you for hosting us at Christmas (having contributed heavily towards the costs), ect, etc... because I was raised to be generous. My husband mismanaged his money, didn't listen to me when I asked him to put cash aside for the rainy days, and now I feel like his brother is rewarding him for being irresponsible while I have to slog through work to keep a roof over our heads. So I feel a bit down-trodden and taken for granted. Am I just wallowing in self pity or do I have a point?
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Duckie2016 · 29/05/2016 22:48
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