to feel upset because DH

(72 Posts)
IamAnIAMSgirl Sun 29-May-16 16:02:33

Appears to be ignoring me because I went away with DM for the night?

This first bank holiday, he went away overnight with his friend and had a glorious time. Very happy for him that he enjoyed himself of course and heard all about it.

I have just returned home after an evening away with DM, who I do not get much quality time with and I did not feel welcome at home when I returned, and he asked me in an off voice how it was.

While I was away I called home twice and he cut me short both times, and now I am back he has hardly spoken to me, or elaborated much on what he has been up to when I asked him.

I am so upset I have left the house and I doubt he has even noticed.Aibu to think he is giving me the cold shoulder because I went away and to be upset? How would you deal with this?

Euphemia Sun 29-May-16 16:05:03

Is he miffed little wifey wasn't there to welcome him home?

I'd be off out again.

NeedACleverNN Sun 29-May-16 16:06:29

Just ask what his problem is?

IamAnIAMSgirl Sun 29-May-16 16:08:05

I was there when he got back and always want to hear about everything.

I had such a nice time with my mum and feel incredibly flat at the reception I have got. The only thing he really said to me is that DS only started playing up since I got home and telling me to pipe down my excitement when ds was riding his bike without stabilisers

SharingMichelle Sun 29-May-16 16:08:13

"You are obviously upset about something, when you're ready to tell me what it is I'm happy to listen and talk."

Then cheerfully ignore all nonsense until he wants to talk to you like a grown up.

IamAnIAMSgirl Sun 29-May-16 16:08:31

I was there when he got back and always want to hear about everything.

I had such a nice time with my mum and feel incredibly flat at the reception I have got. The only thing he really said to me is that DS only started playing up since I got home and telling me to pipe down my excitement when ds was riding his bike without stabilisers

MothertotheLordsofmisrule Sun 29-May-16 16:18:02

Sorry?

He told you to pipe down your excitement about your sons BIG achievement of riding without stabilisers??

I think it's up to your son to decide the amount of maternal pride.

If he's anything like mine it will be "You're so embarrassing mum! It's not that big a deal" grin

IamAnIAMSgirl Sun 29-May-16 16:22:26

Ds was getting upset because he couldn't do it, and I told him it is all about positive mental attitude (he was crying and the time and being defeatist). I made him say 'I can do it' and then he did do it and I was whooping 'you can do it!' Yay!!! DH said 'alright, alright!- God !! ' and big eye roll.

AprilSkies44 Sun 29-May-16 16:22:58

your dh is being a spoilt brat because youve gone out and he didnt like it.

id say something. id have to. and id also remind him that he does exactly the same with your blessing.

Ginkypig Sun 29-May-16 16:27:01

Tell him from me if he can't behave like an adult instead of a huffy 6 year old he can fuck right off!

Glad you had a good time op

MothertotheLordsofmisrule Sun 29-May-16 16:27:10

That still sounds quite a normal thing for a parent to do when helping their child get some more independence.

Ok maybe if you had rolled out a brass band and arranged for a cheer squad then that might have been a bit much grinwink

Your DH is being a prat.

NotYoda Sun 29-May-16 16:29:05

Oh dear. He appears to be a twat

kaitlinktm Sun 29-May-16 16:35:18

NotYoda grin grin

WheresLarry Sun 29-May-16 16:45:17

I'm not being funny but unless you ask him specifically why he is being off with you and get an answer back then nobody here can comment about his reaction. At the moment you and us are only speculating that the reason he is being off with you is because you went out.

NotYoda Sun 29-May-16 16:45:55

Or he could tell her !!

SapphireStrange Sun 29-May-16 16:48:26

He's throwing his toys out of the pram in spectacular fashion.

OTheHugeManatee Sun 29-May-16 16:50:46

Have you asked him yet what's wrong?

IamAnIAMSgirl Sun 29-May-16 18:09:31

He made out there was nothing wrong and carried on as normal

HermioneJeanGranger Sun 29-May-16 18:18:17

He sounds ridiculous.

DoreenLethal Sun 29-May-16 18:26:17

He is training you not to go out with your family.

formerbabe Sun 29-May-16 18:28:32

Was he annoyed that he had to look after your/his ds while you were away?

AlMinzerAndHisPyramidOfDogs Sun 29-May-16 18:34:25

Yep - he'll be a twat then.
poor you.
is he always such a knob?

ExplodingCarrots Sun 29-May-16 18:40:28

What Doreen said.

Does he sulk or go in a mood if you go out with your friends or do anything else by yourself?

Hissy Sun 29-May-16 18:44:03

Oh yeah he's training you alright.this is exactly how it starts.

Put the ds to bed and sit him down and remind him how you did not punish him for his free time with his mate only a couple of weeks ago, so you will not be punished for having a single evening with your DM.

What's more, you'll make sure it's a regular feature of your life so he gets used to it.

Time to redraw the boundaries love, nip this in the bud, shut it right down, right now.

ijustwannadance Sun 29-May-16 18:54:30

I too think he is pissed that he had to stay home with child while you had a fun day/night off. Nob.

I also agree with others that he will keep doing it until you get to the point where it is easier NOT to go out at all.

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