ExH and I separated approx 6 months, 2 DC 10 and 6. Both in new relationships. We are getting on well and shared care of the DC going smoothly so far.
My BF spends time with us overnight when the DC are in my care, I discussed this with ExH beforehand and also the DC and we laid down ground rules, one of which was the DC don't walk into my room when BF is here and they've been happy to knock, likewise BF and I do not enter their room without knocking if the door is closed.
ExH has introduced the DC to his new partner who seems very nice and they like her a lot, for the first time she stayed overnight with him last night when the DC were in his care, I have no issues with this.
However when he dropped them with me this morning the DC told me they had had breakfast in Daddy's bed with daddy and GF. It sits really uncomfortably with me, I can't put my finger on why, I just think it's very early days for that kind of cosiness and it's not something I would allow with myself/BF at this stage hence the laying down ground rules about bedroom privacy for everyone in our new house.
I've always very much believed that when the DC are with the other parent you can't micromanage how they parent them and my uneasiness kind of goes against that. I don't think I can say anything to him, I don't think it's worth him getting defensive and affecting the very amicable and relaxed co-parenting setup we currently have, but AIBU to feel a bit twitchy about this or am I overreacting?
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Welshmaenad · 28/05/2016 12:54
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