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to wonder if you'd leave your 3/4 year old alone at a party?

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partridgeappletree Fri 27-May-16 23:07:16

Having sudden last minute doubts about this weekend's party plans. Would you leave your 3/4 year old alone at the party of someone whose mum you've chatted to at nursery pick up once or twice?

CalleighDoodle Fri 27-May-16 23:10:40

No: not at all. I had a child left ar my ds party this year. He was either two or a young 3. Child asked me to take him to the toilet. He was toilet trained but too young to manage on his own. Totally inappropriate i thought.

readytorage Fri 27-May-16 23:10:51

Depends where the party is. Their house...yes. A soft play where they could be running anywhere and

ceeveebee Fri 27-May-16 23:11:04

No I'd stay and all the parents at the parties I've been to would stay too (my DTs are 4.5)

ExitPursuedByADonkey Fri 27-May-16 23:11:48

No way.

ChablisTyrant Fri 27-May-16 23:12:09

No. But some did for my DD's 4th bday, which surprised me.

PeppasNanna Fri 27-May-16 23:13:10

NO! Just No...confused

cees Fri 27-May-16 23:14:12

Nope, close friend or family member maybe but not the sort of casual acquaintance you have described, no way.

TheCrumpettyTree Fri 27-May-16 23:14:18

No. If it was soft play definitely not. Someone did that at one of my dc's party, I didn't know the mum or the child and the child was really upset, it was awful.

Only1scoop Fri 27-May-16 23:15:18


There was someone at dd last school who did this at Nursery age.

We were all shock

Thunderblunder Fri 27-May-16 23:16:53

Yes but then I have 5 children and a DH who used to work weekends. It was the only way any of mine were able to go to parties.

StopShoutingAtYourBrother Fri 27-May-16 23:17:57


DailyFaily Fri 27-May-16 23:19:04

No, leaving them seems to happen around age 6/7 at parties here.

Hockeynut Fri 27-May-16 23:19:39

No, not a chance

partridgeappletree Fri 27-May-16 23:22:44

It's in a village hall and I haven't even met half of the parents but some of the RSVPs make it sound like they aren't planning on staying confused

janey77 Fri 27-May-16 23:23:47

Nope, but my daughter has been to a party where this happened. The child's parents didn't leave a contact number either and sent a random family member to pick her up - they could have been anyone, but because there was no number for the kid's folks they had to send her off. Everyone there was a bit shock

MadameJosephine Fri 27-May-16 23:24:05

No way

Storminateapot Fri 27-May-16 23:24:19

No. Not at that age.

BotanicalPJs Fri 27-May-16 23:25:16

No I wouldn't.

Can I ask people, what age would you leave them?

Cupoftchaiagain Fri 27-May-16 23:25:22

I was offered the chance to leave by hosting parents at a 5th birthday recently, dd was still 3 so I stayed as did most, but not all. We are having dd's 4th birthday soon and i hope all the parents will stay, for crowd/behaviour control. A few wee siblings are coming too because of this. I am sure in the next year it'll become drop and go most of the time

SpringerS Fri 27-May-16 23:25:53

No I wouldn't it's an awful presumption to make that the host will babysit your toddler while also trying to organise the party.

Thunderblunder Fri 27-May-16 23:28:02

I have left contact details when I've left my then 3/4 yr old at parties. I didn't think twice about leaving them at that age but then I was one of those parents who was quite happy to leave my DC with other people since the moment they were born

manicinsomniac Fri 27-May-16 23:28:29

Yes, if I could get away with it. Generally not an acceptable option round here though.

I teach in my kids' school so parties could be torture. Like extra parents' evenings!

FoxSticks Fri 27-May-16 23:30:07

At the nursery my dd goes to its the norm. You take them to the party and the hosting mum tells you to come back at pick up time. I'm fine with it but a lot of my friends with kidd at other nursery's are shocked by it do its obviously not the norm.

idontlikealdi Fri 27-May-16 23:31:09

No absolutely no way.

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