to swerve one of these weddings?

[Fluffyseagull]

Were going to weddings in the night Saturday and Sunday. One is a mutual mate and one is DH mate. Aibu to miss one? I feel selfish but feeling that my bank hol weekend is being taken up by weddings. Were also going through fertility treatment no one knows and im not really up to innane questions about my uterus from strangers

[MitzyLeFrouf]

Oh I'd definitely dodge one of them.

How is your stomach, are you sure you aren't about to develop some bowel busting case of diarrhoea?

[MitzyLeFrouf]

Go to the mutual friend's and let DH go to his pal's wedding alone.

[EweAreHere]

If you have RSVP'ed 'yes' and they are paying for food for you, etc., you go.

It would be rude not to, unless you are unwell.

[VodkaValiumLattePlease]

Err no that's bloody rude

[Fluffyseagull]

It is only the night wouldnt dream of missing a day invite

[MitzyLeFrouf]

Is it bloody rude? They're only going to the evening part. Or that's how I read it.

[Fluffyseagull]

Both weddings are evening invites to clarify

[Kidnapped]

Have you already accepted both invitations?

If so then you should really make an effort to go. I'm always a bit on here when people gladly accept invitations and then decide a couple of days before the event whether to turn up or not.

[Fluffyseagull]

The saturday one yes. The sunday one was more an open invite to work colleagues and partners

[MitzyLeFrouf]

The couple aren't going to be out of pocket if you don't turn up to the evening do.

[VodkaValiumLattePlease]

Yes I do think it's rude when they've rsvp'd, they had a choice when they were invited.

[MitzyLeFrouf]

Meh. Things change.

[Fluffyseagull]

To be fair vodka we didnt know id be on fertility treatment when we rvsp ed

[SomethingLike]

I would go to both but I love weddings so would see it as a treat!

[Iggii]

They will have requested a buffet for a certain number. You not going will hardly make a difference to the cost, but what if others have the same approach? Why did you accept both?

[SomethingLike]

You don't have to tell anyone about your fertility treatment though unless you've already told people who are going to be there and you're expecting them to enquire about it?

[PPie10]

Yanbu, what a waste of a holiday weekend going to two weddings. Give one a miss.

[Iggii]

You just have been on fertility treatment for a while though, you didn't find out today! If anyone is rude enough to enquire about babies try the mumsnet stare and walk away.

[Fluffyseagull]

As explained above why accepted both. I didnt know id need fertility treatment and now i am on it its a bit much

[VodkaValiumLattePlease]

Does that affect attending events?

[TheCrumpettyTree]

It's two evenings, it's hardly the whole of the holiday weekend.

[Fluffyseagull]

Iggi i started treatment this week

[MitzyLeFrouf]

Honestly OP if you don't feel up to both you don't need to go to both.

The sky will not fall in.

[myownprivateidaho]

Why on earth would people be asking about your uterus? . Tbh you've presumably said yes, you should go. It's only two evenings, what else are you going to do, sit at home? I don't get that attitude tbh.