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footballcrazy11 Fri 27-May-16 10:46:39

Is it just me or would that get your back up? I am single and over 50 and I am amazed at how many grown men say this .
I understand I should feel flattered but to me it sounds so immature and silly

seeyounearertime Fri 27-May-16 10:48:23

What would you rather they say?

HallowedMimic Fri 27-May-16 10:51:25

It does sound silly, unless you are on an online dating site or something.

I can't imagine anyone over 19 actually saying it out loud in real life.

StepAwayFromTheThesaurus Fri 27-May-16 10:51:53

I'd feel like I'd gone back to school.

footballcrazy11 Fri 27-May-16 10:53:03

I really like you, I think you are nice. Something along those lines I guess.
I suppose I am just nitpicking really but it just winds me up for some reason

StepAwayFromTheThesaurus Fri 27-May-16 10:53:18

Incidentally, do young people still talk about who they 'fancy' or is it in the 'terminology used by old people that deserves an eye roll' category these days?

nobilityobliges Fri 27-May-16 10:53:22

Ooh stealth boast alert! You sly thing ;)

sonjadog Fri 27-May-16 10:54:13

It doesn't really matter, I think. Some people are good better expressing themselves than others. If someone told me they fancied me, I would find it flattering rather than think that they were silly.

DioneTheDiabolist Fri 27-May-16 10:54:33

You don't have to feel flattered OP. Maybe you aren't attracted to men who use that turn of phrase. I'm in my 40s and I would use it, so it wouldn't bother me.

But what is it that "gets your back up"?

footballcrazy11 Fri 27-May-16 10:54:35

Thanks Hallowed and Stepaway that's my feeling but didn't know if I was just being a grumpy old bat grin

footballcrazy11 Fri 27-May-16 10:58:38

Nobility, that really made me laugh

Dione I think you may be right if I was attracted to them I wouldn't care how they worded it would I. I think it sounds like playground talk

Sonja you are right but it just puts me right off them

seeyounearertime Fri 27-May-16 11:00:00

But "I fancy you" is different to liking and such isn't it?
The only thing you could say in its place is, "I'd really like to shag you" or similar. grin

LisaMumsnet (MNHQ) Fri 27-May-16 11:04:08

I remember hearing that expression for the first time when I was 14 - a young woman called out in the street 'My brother fancies you!' I was both mortified and thrilled! But I do agree that once you leave your teenage years behind things such as 'You're very attractive' or 'I love spending time with you' would be more appropriate. But do be flattered nonetheless.

wallybantersjunkbox Fri 27-May-16 11:06:15

They could say "I find you attractive..."

That would be nice.

And not "I'd crawl over broken glass just to wank in your shadow..." Which I'll never forget was said to me once confused

footballcrazy11 Fri 27-May-16 11:08:03

I would prefer that seeyou to be honest grin

Lisa I am flattered but totally put off by it. It's as if these older men are now single and using the lines the did at 14!

MunchMunch Fri 27-May-16 11:08:50

Not so stealth boast! grin As cringy as it is just enjoy the compliment.

God, I wish someone would fancy me, sadly my short lived fanciable days are long gone <sobs>

DonkeysDontRideBicycles Fri 27-May-16 11:09:19

Maybe they're only just out of long relationships and a bit rusty trotting out their old vocabulary?

footballcrazy11 Fri 27-May-16 11:09:50

Wallybanters did you date him wink

wallybantersjunkbox Fri 27-May-16 11:16:22

No, no date. But I did laugh hard. So it nearly worked.

MitzyLeFrouf Fri 27-May-16 11:22:41

If a man said to me 'I think you are nice.' I'd think he was the blandest man from boring town.

footballcrazy11 Fri 27-May-16 11:24:00

Well you have a point Mitzy but that wouldn't grate on me as much

SchnooSchnoo Fri 27-May-16 11:44:07

I wondered that StepAway, but it already sounds like a phrase that's been knocking about since the Victorian era, so maybe it's stood the test of time?

acasualobserver Fri 27-May-16 12:13:58

My advice: take it while you can still get it.

footballcrazy11 Fri 27-May-16 12:14:53

Yes you are probably right acasual

Sparkletastic Fri 27-May-16 12:15:48

I believe yoof speak is 'I'm into you'

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