Sorry in advance this is long but I need some perspective on it .
Dd (7) has had a ruff time at school since she started we moved her schools just over 2 years ago as she has suspected aspergers and the school she was at was rubbish . 5 kids from her class of 22 over so not just us that thought so .
Anyway her new school is brilliant she loves it as do we she made friends very quickly including 2 little girls I will call Kate and Rose (not their real names) . Kate and Roses mums and me become friendly but after a bbq last summer me and dh decided to distance our selves from the mothers , we remained friendly as in chit chat at pick off and drop off time but no longer done things socially outside of school.
They didn't take this well and basically started a campaign of hate against us and dd . Kate mum would talk about me point and laugh in playground and other childish stuff their dds alienated dd from her friends and bullied her for having "autism" . Rose punched me in the face one break time through the gates when I went round to check on dd .
We made efforts to avoid them we went diffrent route into school (through an alleyway as opposed to front gate ). But it didn't help kates dad followed us to our street at end of august threatening dh, we stupidly didn't report to police but did inform the school.
Things from then on where tense mates dad enter to jail start of September he was charged with attempted murder but given the fact he got out this month I assume it was changed to a lesser charge . He was just out of jail at time of his other offence.
So fast forward to 5 weeks ago . Dh drops dd of at school in the car drives home and kates mum is waiting outside the main door of our flat . She screams abuse at him which I hear all of as he phoned as soon as he saw her . She threatens to kill me once baby is born at this point I was 39 weeks pregnant she follows him up to our front door and continues screaming and swearing and issuing threats dh is a dead man once her husband gets out of jail etc. She only leaves when I threaten to phone police . After she leaves we go out in car as to be honest I was too scared to stay at home ,dd2 (2) is distraught we calm her down and head straight to police station to report it they are excellent but she hides from them so they can't charge her .3 weeks later we collect dd from school with 2 week old baby and 2 year old kates husband is there his first day out of jail he tells us not to phone police again or else , we are in front of school office at time so we ask teacher holding door if she heard it she didn't but by this tate the two of then are screaming at us and threatening to get us at our house or in the alleyway . We get ushered unto school office where abuse continues for 5 minutes with her also calling dd names and making her cry . Head teacher try to get them to leave deputy is on phone to police at this point , they only leave when they here police sirens .
Sorry forgot to add that same morning this lady has went into dds school just outside school office and told her whole class ti stay away from my dd :( she's an very big intimidating woman and dd was understandably scare , it's hard to explain but the look and crazy eyes she has are frightening.
They school know nothing about this instance as teacher was busy in office . Is it acceptable for kids to be left unattended on their grounds with a person they know has angry issues ?
They school have been appalling so far in making dd feel safe , we can't use alleyway again incase her husband is their and she stands at front gate as if to stop us using that . What are we supposed to do ?dd hasn't been in school since the last incident 2 weeks ago I'm too scared to leave the house she drives up our street repeatedly for no apparent reason .
Surely the school can ban her from the grounds ?
The police have charged her and her dh and have been very helpful they went as far as having a police officer present for a week after the first incident.
What can we do ? Dd is terrified to go back she hasn't been sleeping or eating she is a mess. The school dont seem to be taking it seriously at all , we called to arrange a meeting and they wanted us to go round at 10 to 3 , a time they know kates mum is usually at school from and when we told them as much the answer was I though you's could do anytime :s .
Am I expecting to much or is their more they can do ?
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woollyandtig · 25/05/2016 09:56
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