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Jealous of friends' babies and pregnancies

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ThePartyArtist Tue 24-May-16 21:47:10

I suspect I am being unreasonable but I am hoping for some help in stopping these difficult feelings.

Lately I feel like SO many of my friends are either pregnant or have babies. I feel DESPERATELY broody and am hoping my time for it is not far off. However I am just really struggling with friends' pregnancy announcements and new babies... it's not that I have fertility issues (that I know of) so most advice I've googled for isn't relative. It's that I am waiting for it to be the right time (house, job). This is likely to be in next few months - hence I suspect I am being unreasonable - but the wait just feels so long. I feel totally OBSESSED at the idea of being pregnant / having a baby. I'm always reading up on it, thinking about it, planning etc. I have a busy and sociable life so it's not like I am short of things to do, but this just shouts over everything else. I have a lovely DH who's equally committed to TTC but I just can't shake this horrible jealousy when other friends share good news!

KayTee87 Tue 24-May-16 21:50:22

Yanbu as you can't help the way you feel. As long as you don't treat your friends that are pregnant / have new babies badly because of your jealously then it's just a feeling and can't harm anyone except yourself. I know it's easier said than done but just try to distract yourself and maybe do some things that you can't do once you're pregnant. Hope all goes well when you start TTC smile

NapQueen Tue 24-May-16 21:53:16

It's only now I know I'm done with babies that I can be 100% happy and 0% jealous of pregnant friends/their new babies.

You want a baby. It's totally reasonable that you will be envious of their situation.

Please try not to let it cloud your opinion of them - they aren't responsible for how you feel.
And if I were you I'd just start ttc ing to be honest grin

Notsure1234 Tue 24-May-16 22:42:55

I think you should start now too if possible! I spent years feeling like you do, then when the time was right it took 2 years and it was so much tougher than I could have imagined.

Yanbu as long as you don't treat your friends differently because of how you feel

Xmasbaby11 Tue 24-May-16 22:45:59

That sounds normal to me. It's a difficult time. How old are you?

Roonerspism Tue 24-May-16 22:46:23


Totally normal. It's that annoying little thing called your biological clock saying it wants you to get going now.

ThePartyArtist Tue 24-May-16 22:50:57

Oh no I don't treat friends badly over it - always very positive, interested, congratulatory etc.

@Xmasbaby11 - I am 31.

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