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AIBU?

To be very cross at DSis school?

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juliusthefirst · 21/05/2016 21:56

DSis is 13. She is currently staying with me and my DH for a few months as my Mum is abroad setting up for DSis to join her over there.

A bit of backstory: In primary school DSis had a very large group of friends who were very manipulative and not very pleasant. Nothing too bad, but they pressurised DSis into bullying other girls. We had no idea how serious it was until Mum was called into school one day during YR5. DSis moved school for YR6 and goes to a different secondary school from the majority (bar 2) of these girls but is no longer friends with them- in fact, they have turned on to her since she has refused to partake in any bullying. They have also turned a lot of the other girls against her by telling them "what she used to be like".

At first it started with name calling, excluding her etc- but it has got a lot more serious- and today, has reached fever pitch.

During her chemistry lesson the teacher left the room to go and talk to a teacher in one of the other class rooms and left the class to set up an experiment they were doing- including acids.

One of these girls was teasing DSis and (as we have told her to do) DSis was ignoring her when the girl threatened to throw acid in her face unless DSis paid attention to her. DSis continued to ignore her, the girl grabbed her by the back of the hair and as she wasn't expecting it she was pulled to the floor. Luckily, another girl had gone to fetch the teacher and she came back into the room but this girl was holding a bottle of acid and DSis was incredibly shaken as she thought she was about to throw it in her face.

Both girls taken to the headmaster- and the culprit? Has been given fucking detention. DETENTION

The school has seemed to of written off DSis as she is leaving at the end of the year. We have called and complained about this girl a few times and it has been swept under the carpet.

Is it just me- or should this girl be excluded?

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Report

CalleighDoodle · 21/05/2016 22:03

Make an appointment to speak to the head about how unacceptable this is.

Numbkinnuts · 21/05/2016 22:16

Appointment to see Head Teacher. If no satisfaction go to Chair of Governors.

That was some serious assault. Your DSis was in fear of acid being thrown on her !

Before seeing HEad try and look at schools behaviour policy.

MaterEstIratus · 21/05/2016 22:21

As an aside, I can't believe a teacher would be stupid enough to leave children unsupervised with acid.

PhilPhilConnors · 21/05/2016 22:31

I think I'd ring the police.
This was an assault, and could have had devastating consequences.
If the school is only treating this with a detention, I'm not sure a meeting with the head cuts it.

catkind · 21/05/2016 22:33

Is it me or should kids that age absolutely not have been left alone in a chemistry lab? You can't really ask the school how another child was punished. You def can ask what they're doing to ensure your DSis is safe in future. You could if you wanted report the assault to the police.

Leslieknope45 · 21/05/2016 22:34

As a teacher, if this is how it happened, I would keep my child off until I felt health and safety issues were properly dealt with. WHY did the teacher leave them with acid?!

Buggers · 21/05/2016 22:38

Ring police!

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 21/05/2016 22:46

Defuckintention for threatening to throw acid in her face. She should be in a police cell for threatening and dangerous behaviour.
There's no way in hell. I would be sending a child into that school. Until they pulled their socks up in regards to discipline and safe guarding. I think the teacher needs a kick up the butt. Leaving what 12/13 or is it 13/14 year olds with acid. They only children. They're not mature enough to left with potential life threatening liquids. Especially with a bullying lunartic threatening to throw it at people.
I also think the police should be called.

juliusthefirst · 21/05/2016 22:51

I will be making a complaint about the acid, too.

DSis is very shaken and doesn't want to go back to school. I didn't get back from work until 6pm and found her in a state. They didn't even fucking bother to ring me

My first reaction was the police but thought I'd give the chance for the school to sort their shit out. I may just do it.

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PhilPhilConnors · 21/05/2016 22:52

Just ring them. They may be interested that school's reaction was to give a detention
Might make the school take their pupils' safety a bit more seriously in future.

Mishaps · 21/05/2016 22:54

The teacher should not have left them in the room unsupervised with acid about.

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 21/05/2016 22:54

Of course the poor little lamb doesn't want to go into school. It's understandable. I wouldn't send her back until like i said, she was going to be safe guarded.
The school didn't even ring you. It took your poor sister to have to tell you. They are a disgrace

Iknownuffink · 21/05/2016 22:56

I would be calling the police.

The teacher left the room and gave access to acid.

Call the police.

Brainnotbrawn · 21/05/2016 22:56

Absolutely no fucking way a teacher should leave 12-14 year old children alone with a laboratory setup involving acid. I teach a Science subject to older students and would be fired if I did that so I am aghast if this happened. Are you sure there is not more to this?

Lucylaceingale · 21/05/2016 23:00

If the schools answer was detention then I really wouldn't trust in them to sort this out, I don't even want to think about what would have happened, if the teacher hadn't come back in time, your DSis was in serious dangers, this is a police matter not a school matter.

BoomBoomsCousin · 21/05/2016 23:08

That sounds like an attempt to committ assault with intent to cause grievous bodily harm. One step down from attempted murder. Don't leave it up to the school. Go to the police.

juliusthefirst · 21/05/2016 23:09

I have phoned the police. They are coming round to take a statement from DSis. Thank you everyone. Will update ASAP.

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IAmNotAMindReader · 21/05/2016 23:11

The school had their chance when the teacher came back and it went to the head. They fucked it up by victim blaming (detention for both implying both were as bad as each other.)
Involve the police.

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 21/05/2016 23:11

Oh Please do.
Give her a massive hug from me and all the Mumsnet community.((((((())))))))))). A hug for you as well((((()))))).

IAmNotAMindReader · 21/05/2016 23:12

Sorry Xposted julius

TwoLittleBlooms · 21/05/2016 23:18

I think the school have handled this really appallingly and I personally would be reporting to the police. Your sister is not safe in that school - I would keep her off until the issue is sorted (properly!). Hope she is OK.

EweAreHere · 21/05/2016 23:32

I would have called the police had that been the school's response. They're not going to do any more without you forcing their hand. Call the police. And submit a formal complaint in writing so it doesn't get swept.

Shocking behaviour and poor supervision if acid was left lying about with no adult in the room.

AgathaMystery · 21/05/2016 23:35

Jesus Christ poor girl - you are a good sister xx

SugarMiceInTheRain · 21/05/2016 23:41

Atrocious on the part of the school. I hope the police take it up with the school. Their pathetic reaction to such an assault makes it hard to have any faith in their ability to keep pupils safe.

MidniteScribbler · 21/05/2016 23:43

Good god, that sent shivers up my spine. Going to the police is a good mood, and I would want the teacher disciplined, if not fired for serious lack of judgement. Report the school to the regulating body there (OFSTED?). Sorry, not in the UK so not sure what your department is officially called, but I'd definitely be bringing them in to it. This is not a child getting a bruise, she could have been blinded and scarred for life.

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