We're essentially separated although he still lives in my house. He's just had a death in the family, a cousin, who I don't know. And now lots of his friends and family want to descend them on our very small house. We only have one sitting room downstairs. It's currently an unbelievable mess, because I've hurt my lower back, and haven't been able to do any tidying up for about a week now. He is suffering from his own health problems and currently has a bandaged leg and is basically refusing to do any clearing up.
The culture that we both come from basically see it's the woman's responsibility to do clearing up. He has previously used the messy state of the house as some kind of thing against me to prove that I'm a bad wife bad mother.
Our son who is six has ASD and isn't really very good around lots of people and this will mean I will have to leave the house with him anyway or stay upstairs while these people are here. Which is really hacking me off. But am I being unreasonable for not going back to tidy up?
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greebstreebling · 21/05/2016 13:00
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