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AIBU?

To be annoyed a friend called her baby the same as mine?

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tottryornottotry · 20/05/2016 17:30

So a girl I worked with for 3 years (in a small team), who I've kept in touch with and we have mutual friends has called her baby the exact same name as mine. Both first and middle name. They are 9 months apart. It's quite an unusual name too. I feel really annoyed that my daughter had lost her originality somehow?!

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Sammysquiz · 20/05/2016 17:31

YABU. You don't own the name!

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tottryornottotry · 20/05/2016 17:33

No I guess not but not very original of her to use the exact same!

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Arfarfanarf · 20/05/2016 17:33

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ElsaAintAsColdAsMe · 20/05/2016 17:33

You'll get over it, her choice should have no reflection on how you feel about your child. It's just a name.

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MrsMushrooms · 20/05/2016 17:34

I think YABU because I'm 100% sure that your daughter's name wasn't unique to start with and her originality doesn't come from her name, it will come from her personality.

I know that some people do think this kind of stuff is not OK so I'm sure many will say you're NBU but I really do think ideas about name ownership are ridiculous

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Goingtobeawesome · 20/05/2016 17:34

Really? It doesn't matter. It's just a name and she quite possibly wasn't the only child with that name anyway. Don't make this into something it really isn't.

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myownprivateidaho · 20/05/2016 17:34

Depends how unusual I guess. Are they in the top 100 for last year?

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wasonthelist · 20/05/2016 17:34

Somone stole my name again.

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MrsJoeyMaynard · 20/05/2016 17:35

Unless both girls are going to be growing up near each other, in the same class at school etc, then it surely doesn't matter all that much?

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Buttons23 · 20/05/2016 17:35

Your daughter probably never had originality, unless it is a proper out there name then there is a good chance there are plenty of others with the same name.

She may have had very good reasons for the name and it's not like you own the name. Unless you are best friends/ family chances are in 10 years time you guys won't talk so what's the big deal. If anything take it as a compliment that you chose a great name.

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Dozer · 20/05/2016 17:35

Yabu. Since she's a colleague assume you have mainly separate social circles anyway.

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BeckywiththeGoodHare · 20/05/2016 17:36

YABU. I guarantee that no matter how unique you think your combo is, there will be an Eddie Stobart wagon somewhere with that exact name painted on the front.

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TobleroneBoo · 20/05/2016 17:37

As many have said, you don't own a name

But it would really fuck me off too

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LogicalThinking · 20/05/2016 17:38

So this is a former colleague?
If it was your sister I would be able to see your point, but a former colleague is of no relevance.
I bet the name isn't THAT rare.

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acasualobserver · 20/05/2016 17:38

You could change your baby's name before she gets too used to it. If your friend follows suit then you have every right to be angry.

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Loveheart123 · 20/05/2016 17:38

You don't own the name. Yabu

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IWILLgiveupsugar · 20/05/2016 17:40

It would bug me too, even thoigh I know that nobody owns a name.

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NotYoda · 20/05/2016 17:42

Is it hyphenated?

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ElectroStallion · 20/05/2016 17:46

Depends whether she's called Ruby Grace or Perdita Sharon really, doesn't it? Top ten names are v v popular, and if both names are top ten, then you're bound to meet others of same name, unavoidable.

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Pseudo341 · 20/05/2016 17:47

Do you honestly expect her to give up her first choice of name just because you got there first? 10 years down the line chances are you won't still be in touch.

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NicknameUsed · 20/05/2016 17:47

Can I just say:

Get a grip - to all of you who would be upset over something like this.

In the grand scheme of things it really doesn't matter. DD had a girl in her class with the same christian and middle name. Her surname was quite similar to ours with the same ending.

You know what? It didn't matter.

Stop being so precious, and grow up.

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LillyBugg · 20/05/2016 17:48

I disagree with everyone else. Copying both first name and middle name, isn't that just fucking weird?! YANBU. I'd be so annoyed.

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squoosh · 20/05/2016 17:49

No one owns a name but it would irritate me too OP! And creep me out a little.

Is your daughter at the Isabella Rose end of the scale or the Boudicca Beryl?

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saltwiththat · 20/05/2016 17:49

I know nobody owns a name but I'd be hacked off too, shows a lack of imagination.
Unless it's Charlotte Elizabeth Diana.

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RJnomore1 · 20/05/2016 17:49

Is it Lilly-Mae?

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