to grudge giving to a personal charity

[diamond457]

A friend of a friends husband has got cancer, it's terminal but it's been said he will still live for many years to come.

The family member has set up a fundraising page to raise money for the husband, so they can go on a holiday together, and see a so called specialist.

A lot of people are a bit dubious over it all and have made comments about how they should be raising money for a proper cancer charity and fundraising for cancer treatment etc if they are going to raise money.

There are constant posts on Facebook about raising money for the fund, every day asking for money. I just can't get over the cheek of it.
It has came to light there was bitching about me because I donated old clothes to the charity shop and not to the cancer fund car booty they are holding. We are struggling as it is and I don't really want to line other people's pockets so they can go abroad. I'd rather donate to an important charity that supports research, support for family's etc.

Aibu

[MrsBed2b]

YANBU
Its awful that 'A friend of a friends husband has got cancer' but I agree why should you basically pay towards them having a holiday.

Also charity should be something people offer/want to do, not feel pressured into giving.

[MagicMojito]

Just don't donate to them then Facing terminal cancer (even if he does have "years to live" ) must be pretty fucking terrifying for them all. Let them do what they want to do without judging them, and just be grateful your not faced with the prospect of a dying husband. Yes they probably were BU in regards to any comments as to who you choose to donate to, but I'd certainly let it go under the circumstances.