This has been going on for 9 months now. Apologies for long post. I am at my wits end and just looking for advice from anyone who's been through similar...
My daughter is 4 in Reception. She met a girl at preschool who is in her year but much older and bigger who has "latched on" to my DD. For this thread let's call her "other girl" OG.
At first I tried to dismiss my concerns thinking things will play out at school. Before Christmas, OG hit DD for playing with another girl. I informed the class teacher. Then things seemed better for a while but at the same time I had OG's mum following us around as if she were our shadow and watching us, encouraging this clingy behaviour. I pushed back politely as best I could. And trying to avoid too much contact, no more playdates after school and keeping conversation with mum to a bare polite minimum.
It has gotten worse recently. DD told me two weeks ago, OG is mean to her, calls her names and has hit her on two more occasions. DD also began using taunting language at home which she learnt from this child. OG also excludes DD's other friends from playing with them as other mums have approached me. DD tells me OG always sits next to her in school and she can't get away. DD has told lunch time supervisors she was hit but told to play with another child.
I have been into the school to have a meeting with the teacher who has not witnessed any of this behaviour but monitoring it for two weeks. At the same time, OG's mother approached me in the playground to ask why I declined a playdate with OG. I was caught offguard and although wanted to avoid a public confrontation I told her OG is being mean to my DD, hitting her and to keep away from us.
DD has been playing with other children. I thought things were getting better. Last week DD didn't want to cross the road towards OG and told me OG invited her over for a playdate which DD declined, I thought we were turning a corner and DD sticking up for herself and making right choices. But this week DD tells me OG is having a summer party with a bouncy castle and wants her to go. DD now wants to go but I do not want DD spending anytime whatsover with OG outside of school. It feels OG's stalker mum is desperate for our friendship is now resorting to bribing us with parties and I am being made out to be the unfair one by saying no.
Also OG's mum last week started to befriend my best school friend mum whom she'd never ever made the time of day for before... latching on to my other friends.
Help... I want to keep calm and polite but I don't know what to do? Do I need to be brutally honest to get her to leave us alone? I am meeting with the class teacher again this Friday to review things. I have requested they are put in different classes next year...
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Advice on coping with an obsessive mum and daughter?
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Franimal · 18/05/2016 13:10
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