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wibu to think I had been invited to the party?

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andpeakaboo Wed 18-May-16 09:58:54

I often babysit for a lovely family. On Tuesday I was asked if I was busy Saturday because they were having a 60's themed party for the dads 50th birthday starting at 6PM. I said I was free and the mum said 'great see you then'

Saturday comes, I spend ages doing my hair and make up in 60s style and had trawlled charity shops for suitable clothed.

I turned up at the house at 6.20PM as I didn't think they'd want everyone turning up bang on 6PM.

I was greeted at the door by a very flustered mum and she said 'thank God we thought you weren't coming' and both parents flew out the door and got in their car.

It suddenly dawned on me that I'd not been invited and was actually babysitting!! I was mortified. When the parents rolled in at 1am the dad clocked I was in 60's gear and said 'you knew you were babysitting, right?' I was so embarrassed I said 'yeah of course, I thought it'd be fun to do 60s things with the kid's

Wibu to presume I was invited?

wolfwhistleme Wed 18-May-16 10:02:20

Sorry, all i know is that this made me giggle!

gamerchick Wed 18-May-16 10:02:21

If I usually babysit I would assume I was babysitting. I can understand the mix-up and you thinking you were invited to something at their house though.

formerbabe Wed 18-May-16 10:03:53

No one was being unreasonable....just crossed wires! Sorry but it really made me laugh...

said 'you knew you were babysitting, right?' I was so embarrassed I said 'yeah of course, I thought it'd be fun to do 60s things with the kid's

This is brilliant...quick thinking op!

EatShitDerek Wed 18-May-16 10:04:29

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MiddleClassProblem Wed 18-May-16 10:04:53


LineyReborn Wed 18-May-16 10:06:28

Do a sad face photo in the Daily Mail, in your sixties outfit.

Buggers Wed 18-May-16 10:06:44

That sounds like something I'd do blush how dressed up were you? grin

FamousSeamus Wed 18-May-16 10:08:21

It was a bit unreasonable if you're their babysitter, unless you also regularly socialise with them! Wouldn't the first thing that came into your head at the question about whether you were free on a certain night, when asked by the people you babysit for, be 'they want me to babysit' rather than 'they're inviting me to a party'?

God, though, how embarrassing! grin

Lighteningirll Wed 18-May-16 10:08:43

Sorry but this did make me laugh chocolate and sorry yabu unless these are close family friends

Arfarfanarf Wed 18-May-16 10:09:25

oh dear. grin poor you.

If you often babysit and that is your main relationship with the family then yes, you should have assumed they wanted you to babysit.

If, otoh, you socialise with the family then it is more reasonable to think perhaps they were inviting you to his birthday.

Do you normally or often attend their family parties?

andpeakaboo Wed 18-May-16 10:10:05

Bright pink leggings with green and orange swirls which I sewed some bright patterned material onto to make flares, bright orange long sleeve top with same material sewn onto the sleeves, hem and neck and made a bandana too. Then knee high white boots.

DeadGood Wed 18-May-16 10:10:57

Poor OP. They did give a totally unnecessary amount of detail to you, I can see why you thought you were invited sad

andpeakaboo Wed 18-May-16 10:12:24

I socialise with them every couple of months but always at their house with the kids there. I presumed the party was at the house with the kids. They are 7, 8 and 11 so not little ones

NewNameNotTheSame Wed 18-May-16 10:12:53

Oh God, I'd be mortified sorry grin but unless I usually socialised with them I don't see how I'd assume they were inviting me out with them! grinwine

andintothefire Wed 18-May-16 10:15:51

This is exactly the sort of thing I would do! Thanks for making me laugh!

EatShitDerek Wed 18-May-16 10:17:43

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maggiethemagpie Wed 18-May-16 10:19:49

I bet they were just as embarrassed as you!

Sounds like the kind of thing I would do, I often get my wires crossed in a mortifying way.

MiddleClassProblem Wed 18-May-16 10:21:18

YABU to not post a photo

eddielizzard Wed 18-May-16 10:21:39


RobinsAreTerritorialFuckers Wed 18-May-16 10:23:22

Oh, I am cringing for you. But also very impressed by your quick thinking!

FamousSeamus Wed 18-May-16 10:23:45

I bet they were just as embarrassed as you!

This! They can't not have known you misunderstood, if you showed up having very obviously gone to all that trouble to make a party costume - no one would seriously believe you had done all that just to do some 1960s themed things with children you were babysitting! blush grin

I bet the parents were completely mortified at the misunderstanding and discussed it in horrified undertones all evening at the party...

ScarletForYa Wed 18-May-16 10:26:21



acasualobserver Wed 18-May-16 10:33:02

Would it help if you dressed in 60s clothes every time you babysat from now on?

FibbyMcFibFace Wed 18-May-16 10:34:29

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