AIBU or is ma-ma?(119 Posts)
She's refusing to let me play "door handles". It's quite a simple game; I point at a door handle, and she holds me at just the right height for as long as I decide is appropriate. I need to be able to touch the door handle with both hands, for exploring. About 40minutes is usually enough time for a session. I then like to move onto another door handle.
I've tried communicating this to her using my extensive knowledge of baby sign language. (I squeal while pointing and gesturing vaguely, just as I was taught.....I think. I usually bugger off to play with the other babies while our mums awkwardly sing and sign while trying to avoid each other's eye contact).
Sorry for the essay, I am just wondering if my ma-ma is the only one like this. Is there anything I can do to improve her behaviour?
Thanks in advance
Sorry to drop feed, I'm 11mo, in case that's relevant.
Just wait a month or two and then you will be able to reach it on your own.
It is a much better game to turn the handle and escape the room.
Mummies really like that one, just you wait.
She is BVVVVU. If you wanted to spend an hour at it, that should be fine!
Wait until you are 15 months old and she won't let you use every potato and onion in the vegetable rack as a baby that you need to feed your bottle and dummy to and carry around in your truck, and she takes your babies away and boils them for tea. I've never looked at my mashed spuds the same since....
YANBU - though perhaps she is getting bored and needs a change to her routine.
Perhaps you could suggest the 'lunch game' - you know the one . You tell her you are really hungry, let her spend a while playing with 'food' - putting stuff together, putting it hot places and then spreading it on flat things which re put in front of you. You can then spend the next 20 minutes seeing how far you can throw it so that she can go a fetch it. My mamma really likes that game.
These are excellent suggestions..
pebble , I'm very sorry to hear about the grizzly end met by your babies.... Your mum sounds very inconsiderate.
seeline what an excellent suggestion! I sometimes enjoy saying "nana", which clearly means "I would like to lob a banana at the wall, with force". Ma-ma never seems as pleased as I'd hope she would be though. She's very odd.
It's a long fame but you can get your own back.
I used to love the door handle game, and made mummy and daddy play it for hours at a time, then they decided I was too heavy and didn't do it much.
This made me v v cross, so as soon as I could reach the keys in the front door (you might have to wait a year or so!) I did something to them and they bent in the lock, leaving me and mummy trapped in the house for hours!
The look on your mummie's face as she tries to suss out how on earth a two year old managed to be strong enough to bend keys in a lock will be priceless, and the mad chaos as mummy tries to unscrew the entire lock so we can get out, then when daddy gets home and laughs is well worth the wait!!
Your ma ma is definitely BU, but revenge will be sweet......
*It's a long game not fame!!
In my defence I'm only four!!
bad that sounds glorious, I can't wait until I'm tall enough! The look on her face will indeed be priceless!
If your ma-ma likes keys Violet you could try the 'hunt the keys' game. You hide them somewhere for her to find. It's even more fun if you forget where you have put them, and then you can play too.
Something about this thread seems slightly suspicious, like it's been written from the other persons point of view? I can't quite put my finger on it.
However my advice is to sit on the floor scream uncontrollably and point until you get your way, then wipe your tears and snot all over mamas shoulder. She is being VVUR
Do it, I promise you it will be worth it!
Also Seelines idea above, re hiding keys, is also an excellent game.
I would also thoroughly recommend posting things like important letters, credit cards and car keys out the letterbox, you and ma ma get to play the finding game, and ma ma gets to talk to the postman/delivery driver/random stranger who will ineveitably knock on the door to ask why loads of important stuffis lying on the floor outside!
Particularly good if ma ma goes a funny colour afterwards and makes lots of noise, don't know why she goes so red and spluttery, but it is funny!
oldjacks you mean a reverse
surely no mummy would be mean enough to impersonate her own child on the internet!??!
I've got a niggling feeling this thread's a reverse
Get your mum to put you in your high chair next to the door handle so she can have a rest.
oldjack accusing this of being a reverse? Next thing the OP will be accused of being a GF or a hairy-handed one.
Speaking of which. Have you seen the trailer for the new Trolls film? Maybe you are a bit young for the cinema? But when you go be sure to pull everything out of your ma-ma's bag, and then tip any juice/popcorn/chocolate into the bag. It's such a good game. You'll learn all kinds of new and interesting words when mama works out what has happened.
You're 11 months old FFS
You should be able to spell 'Mama' correctly...
I assure you oldjacks, this isn't a reverse. I am far too important to allow ma-ma to access the Internet without my supervision. I do the uncontrollable scream thing a few times a day, so thats a step in the right direction at least.
bad that's genius! Why haven't I thought of that one?
Another excellent game suggestion seeline .
Have you tried removing and hiding radiator valves instead? They are generally at just the right height.
If you play it properly she won't notice until winter
Bump that is truly the work of a genius!
Why did I not think of this??
Next year mummy........
Violet if you can find something wobbly and preferably with wheels, put it in front of the door handle of your choice and start to climb onto it (only do this when Ma-ma can see you) and you will find she comes whooshing over to grab you (fun!) and then she'll be happy to hold you at door handle height for as long as you like.
You can also make her come whooshing over with an expression like a surprised hippo if you sit right at the top of the stairs, with your back to the drop. Or stick something in one of those holes in the wall that they put there right at our height yet we're not allowed to play with (unfair!) Or if you shove your hand down the back of your nappy after you fill it. Or undo your car seat.
Honestly, it's the best game ever.
My Mummy refuses to sing the wheels on the bus after 20 repeats! She thinks she can make this better by putting the ipad version on but I will scream until she realises that her Lax parenting just will not do!
I am also upset as to why Mummy does not appreciate my wonderful artwork! She thinks she hides all of the pens unless I am supervised but my older brothers keep me in constant supply. I upcycled her drab (although very new) wooden dining chairs in a wonderful biro and she did not thank me once!
As for the Rhyme time, YABU. Your mummy needs this time to socialise with others so that they can compare our milestones and have someone to moan to about our strange appetites for door handles and stuff!! does she not realise you do it because you are keeping her amused? I am afraid there is nothing you can do to fix this behaviour! It is a stage these grown ups go through and you just have to ride it through! Think of it as practice for your teen years when you will never be right and will be accused constantly of "rolling your eyes"! When I become a parent I will NEVER behave like this!!!
Ah ye olde 'hide the radiator valve' game.
I'm 23 months now so I've moved onto OD-ing the dog on Wind-Eze. Just throw him the packet, sit back and watch. The best part is watching mummy squirm while having to admit to The Fat Man that she is a serial farter who walks around with Wind-Eze in her bag and that I found the packet and fed it to the dog. All true but I spit polish my halo to a blinding shine so he doesn't believe her.
It all ends with dog puke and maternal humiliation as dad observes the canine teeth marks on the pill packet with Hercule Poirot intensity.
I might move onto Ibuprofen. Up my game.
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