So I was told this week by one of my neighbours that he "sticks up for me" to other people in our development - I asked him to clarify and he said that I'm known as "Bipolar Sweary" and "The snooty cow who is always sticking her nose in". He told me who had told him these things and they're people I've never even spoken to. We live in a development of around 40 flats and I probably know/speak to about half a dozen people here and I'm baffled as to why these things are being said about me. I don't stick my nose in to anything - we really keep ourselves to ourselves (aside from the issue with the drug dealing neighbour, but that was our business as his clients were ringing my doorbell at all hours of the night) and I don't really have anything to do with anyone here.
The thing is, this isn't the first time I've been shown that I'm very much excluded from a group - any time there has been a group dynamic I've been pushed out, or told that I'm being slagged off behind my back by "well-meaning" friends or colleagues. It happens over and over again.
The thing is I really don't get it. I think I'm nice - I'm not rude to people, I help out if asked, I'm not arrogant, I don't push myself forward or trample on other people in order to get what I want - if anything I let people trample on me. I don't get what I do to provoke this reaction in people and I don't get what I'm doing wrong. And it has to be me as it's happening so often.
AIBU to not understand what I'm doing to make me so unlikeable? And if I don't understand it then how can I fix it?
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User543212345 · 15/05/2016 11:34
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