My mum moved to Aus 10 yrs ago, the year after my DD was born. She moved with my younger siblings and step dad. I was a Teen mum, full time job with no partner around. She said she was going on holiday and never came back. Didn't offer me or my 2 other siblings to go. Just packed up and left. Didn't see her for 4 years then she came over and I just felt anger. I struggled so much with working and raising my DD.
She has given the best life to my 2 younger siblings, they want for nothing. Yet with us left behind, she couldn't care less. Younger siblings are now 19&20, she does everything for them still, pays for University, holidays etc and I feel resentment as she never took us on holidays, never went shopping with us, never done anything like that.
When I have bought it up with her she cries, says she knows she is a bad mum, why do I hate her so much etc, all why me kind of cries.
The other month she had enough and left her husband (and the kids) and flew back, I dropped everything and picked her up, paid for petrol, was shoulder to cry on, for her to tell me 4 days later she feels bad on the 2 children and has to go back to them. She NEVER thought of us like that. I'm so hurt for many reasons. I wanted a mum who I could rely on, could talk to, visit and have for advice and just a mum. I feel so jealous when I see/hear other people doing that with their mums. Still now. 10 years on.
People say I should get over it, not bother to think about it, but it hurts still now. I don't have any contact with my dad (have seen him once in a year) and my UK siblings - well we just don't talk at all for various reasons.
I have a fantastic partner and great kids, just filled with anger still. Should I be? Should I still think about it? Or am I over reacting?
Sometime you just need your mum and through the toughest times of my life, I haven't had one.
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paperchase0verdone · 15/05/2016 01:38
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