Friend inviting herself along

[Bitchqueen90]

Ds is at exH's next Saturday. It is my good friend's birthday and she has invited a couple of us out for a meal and cocktails in the evening. As ds is going to exH's in the morning I have the whole day free so I messaged another friend (who I haven't seen for a while - I'll call her friend 2) asking if she'd like to catch up and grab a coffee early afternoon before I go out to this meal.

Friend 2 asks what I'm doing in the evening, I tell her about the birthday meal. She has taken this to mean I'm going out on the town and has messaged saying she and another friend are going out and we could all meet up in the restaurant the meal is being held at.

I replied saying that as it was Friend 1's birthday and I wasn't sure what the plans were (I don't know if we're planning on going out after) could we just stick to coffee in the afternoon. She sent me a "oh thanks" sort of snotty message back and is being really funny with me now!

I think this is bizarre behaviour, Friend 1 and Friend 2 are not acquainted and essentially friend 2 has invited herself to the birthday night out of someone she doesn't know. AIBU to find this ridiculous and a little bit pushy? I don't know if she thought that me mentioning it was me inviting her along too because I said nothing of the sort. It's not my place to invite people along to someone else's birthday!

[leelu66]

YANBU. There was no harm in asking (a bit weird though) but she shoudn't have got snippy. Are you still having lunch with her and is her friend coming?

[Bitchqueen90]

Yes, we're still meeting up. Just the two of us as far as I know. I don't see what the issue is if she's out with another friend in the evening. Also she can go out whenever she wants (friend 1 and I both have dc, she doesn't)

[Spam88]

I wouldn't worry, you've clearly done nothing wrong. Maybe she'd just misunderstood the situation, I'm sure she'll be fine when you see her :)

On a similar note, I have a friend who always used to invite other friends to people's birthdays. They were generally just nights out in town, but I still found it very odd...

[Witchend]

Did she mean joining for the meal though? She could have meant beforehand for drinks, and her and other friend might stay,and eat together, or she could have meant meeting up afterwards and going on somewhere.