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to not understand why my son's school's safeguarding officer needs to speak to me... (since ds has broken his arm)

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alittleconfused10 · 13/05/2016 18:41

namechanged.

DS is 9, he broke his wrist yesterday after playing a stair game with his brothers, he slipped fell and there we are, a bloody broken wrist. He has a cast, all fine.

He goes into school today, as normal, I get a phone call around lunch time from their safeguarding officer saying she would like a word with me regarding his wrist... Hmm now I'm stressed and don't know what it's for, but didn't get the message until I was home from work and now it's the weekend.

Does anyone know the reasons this may happen?

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lougle · 13/05/2016 18:43

She'll just want to chat through the situation that led to the fracture.

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alittleconfused10 · 13/05/2016 18:52

Why is that? Lots of kids break their limbs. Do they all get a call then?

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MrsTerryPratchett · 13/05/2016 18:52

What's a stair game?

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alittleconfused10 · 13/05/2016 18:53

Seeing how many stairs they can jump

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mummyto2monkeys · 13/05/2016 18:54

Were the hospital satisfied with your explanation of how your sons wrist was broken? They may have sent a report to the school nurse/ your g.p. Alternatively your son may have said something that concerned them e.g' My brother pushed me down the stairs' or ' my stairs were so messy that I slipped and fell down the stairs'

Or it may be as simple as wanting to risk assess your sons involvement in different activities. My son's head teacher wanted to know how long he would be in cast and what advice the hospital had given us regarding break times/ p.e and writing. They also wanted to be nosey and ask how it happened (falling off monkey bars)

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annielouisa · 13/05/2016 18:55

How old are his DB? Is it maybe the way your DS described what happened that has got them interested?

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alittleconfused10 · 13/05/2016 18:58

Brothers are 13 and 17

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AnyFucker · 13/05/2016 18:58

It is probably to do some kind of risk assessment in school to make sure he is OK in class etc

Did you inform them he was turning up in a cast ?

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alittleconfused10 · 13/05/2016 18:59

I sent a letter to give to his teacher, so she knew for PE

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AnyFucker · 13/05/2016 19:04

I would have telephoned myself, but no matter now

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CherylMerylBeryl · 13/05/2016 19:07

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ConkerTriumphant · 13/05/2016 19:08

Primary head here.

If a child turned up with a cast without a parent or a call, we'd be surprised. You'd definitely get a call from us as we'd need to risk assess his needs and complete paperwork.

We would also ask what happened and make sure the stories matched (no judgement intended, we would fully expect them too - like you say, kids have accidents all the time. It's rare that they don't but can be significant when they don't).

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m0therofdragons · 13/05/2016 19:10

Broken limbs aren't that common ime. Dd1 has 60 in her year and there has been one broken arm and one broken leg in the 4 years she's been in school (neither were dd luckily.) I imagine the conversation is more about what ds is able to do and how long he'll need the cast / any physio he'll need in to do in school. I find it odd you sent a note - I would have spoken to the teacher at drop off or called if I wasn't dropping off but maybe other schools do things differently.

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lougle · 13/05/2016 19:10

I'd have thought that his relative young age with an almost adult brother is enough for them just to want to check that he's not taking unnecessary risks at home. It's likely to be a 5 minute chat.

I agree that I would have made a phone call ahead of him arriving at school with a cast, though, tbh.

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alittleconfused10 · 13/05/2016 19:11

I think lots of things that kids to aren't particularly safe - climbing trees isn't safe! It's just a little game and he was with his 2 older brothers

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annielouisa · 13/05/2016 19:13

It was a bit of a recipe for disaster and obviously if a 9 year old tries to compete with a 17 and 13 year old he is at a disadvantage and the one most likely to get injured. Maybe your DS said my brother made me do it.

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EatShitDerek · 13/05/2016 19:13

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alittleconfused10 · 13/05/2016 19:14

Their teacher is no where to be seen at drop-off. They go to the playground and get called in at a set time by a bell

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Berthatydfil · 13/05/2016 19:14

Sorry I think seeing how many steps you can jump down is inherently risky and is not on a par with climbing trees etc and I do t think you should be encouraging any of your sons to "play" this game

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alittleconfused10 · 13/05/2016 19:18

There were pillows at the bottom, I honestly don't see the harm Confused I used to play it all the time when I was younger

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m0therofdragons · 13/05/2016 19:18

If teacher wasn't there I'd pop into the office. It's a significant injury so I'd expect a conversation to let the school know.

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BlueFolly · 13/05/2016 19:19

I used to love that game.

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Amy214 · 13/05/2016 19:19

CherylMerylBeryl my brother used to tell me if i jumped off the stairs and flapped my arms really fast i could fly 😂 its just stupid stuff children do (i was only 4, he was 8, i dont remember it but he does) luckily i never broke any bones but i remember being seriously ill for 2 weeks and a health officer came around to inspect my parents home

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bloodyteenagers · 13/05/2016 19:19

I am surprised at the 17 year old wanting to play the steps game. Not surprised about the actual game. I remember playing when I was a child.
Along with the slide down the banister (huge on in plush relatives house). And slide down the stairs, which my dc's also played lol.

But anyway. Yes it will probably be because you didn't call or try and get into see someone.

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