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To send DS to school without a snack?

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Frimplepants Wed 11-May-16 07:00:27

They all sit and eat their snack at morning break. DS has to leave the house in 3 minutes. He was first asked 42 minutes ago to get dressed. He has been asked/told several times since and told to come and present himself to me fully dressed and then I will make his snack.

He is still in pyjamas. Would it be totally wrong to send him today with just his water bottle?

JellyMouldJnr Wed 11-May-16 07:01:36


Gileswithachainsaw Wed 11-May-16 07:08:05

course not.

cariadlet Wed 11-May-16 07:11:13

Of course not.

I'd be tempted to send him to school in his pyjamas! (with uniform in a bag)He might speed up a bit tomorrow.

MsJamieFraser Wed 11-May-16 07:11:34

Why would you even think of this, confused why not help him get dressed, rather than MNetting hmm

lovelyandnormal Wed 11-May-16 07:14:34

Maybe he's 15 grin

How old is he? Now you've said it I think you have to stick to it, but 'no snack' seems an odd punishment for not getting dressed.

Believeitornot Wed 11-May-16 07:20:28

I wouldn't. I'd give him the snack. But send him in PJs

Idliketobeabutterfly Wed 11-May-16 07:21:42

I'd say it depends on age. At eight, probably yes. At thirteen, not at all.

LunaLoveg00d Wed 11-May-16 07:24:00

I used to regularly threaten my eldest with going to school in his pyjamas if he didn't pull his finger out and get dressed.

Snack is no biggie, my 7 year old hasn't been taking one this week when it's been hot as he's been having a larger breakfast and prefers to spend his time running about.

Ivegotyourgoat Wed 11-May-16 07:24:28

Depends, how old is he?

Why does he have to leave so early?

wigglesrock Wed 11-May-16 07:25:24

What kind of snack are you making for breaktime? Can he not just lift a bit of fruit or a pack of mini cheddars or the like? thats what mine do.

Eva50 Wed 11-May-16 07:28:14

I wouldn't punish (or reward) with food. IMO what you do next depends on his age. Is this his normal behaviour?

Cheby Wed 11-May-16 07:29:11

Depends how old he is really. But you're probably NBU.

Ditsy4 Wed 11-May-16 07:29:52

A mum did send child in pyjamas once. She put him in the car, brought him to school late ( about 5-10 m) and fetched his uniform. Told my friend he wouldn't get dressed and she was fed up. All the kids laughed and he was dressed in about 2 mins.He never did it again.
Our kids aren't allowed to bring snack so I can't see a problem. Remove something tonight...I pad, x box etc

MattDillonsPants Wed 11-May-16 07:30:06

What? So you're just sitting there?

How odd.

I think YABVU. His being slow to get ready has nothing to do with his snack!

How old is he? Why do you need to "make" his snack? Chuck a banana in his bag.

Excusemeforpostinghere Wed 11-May-16 07:30:19

I wouln't do it. It's mean

EsmeraldaEllaBella Wed 11-May-16 07:31:29

I agree with Eva

Plus it seems odd to punish getting dressed with snack. Have you heard of natural consequences? I think it would be - if you don't get dressed you'll still be in your pyjamas for school :D

Lilaclily Wed 11-May-16 07:32:32

i wouldn't punish (or reward) with food

It's just mean

Sleepybeanbump Wed 11-May-16 07:34:06

Food shouldn't be a punishment. You wouldn't stop your child sleeping as a punishment, so why withhold food? A mid morning snack is needed for them to function well during the day, it shouldn't be seen as an optional treat.

My mum used food as a major battleground when I was a child. I spent years with eating disorders because I associated food with control.

Sleepybeanbump Wed 11-May-16 07:35:26

Agree with those saying send him in pjs but leave the snack out of it.

Princesspeach1980 Wed 11-May-16 07:36:01

I would give consequences, but I wouldn't give a punishment which school effectively has to put into place. If he gets upset about it, or hungry and cranky before lunch, the teachers will get the fall out. If he's old enough, I would have a consequence when he gets home.

HughGrantsHair Wed 11-May-16 07:36:06


Find a better way of dealing with this than possibly making him hungry from playtime until lunch. That won't teach him a lesson. It'll just make him grumpy and possibly less able to concentrate in school.

Buckinbronco Wed 11-May-16 07:36:19

I don't understand the link between getting dressed and snack either. Or asking MN 3 mins before he needs to go

witsender Wed 11-May-16 07:37:52

Snack has nothing to do with it surely? It is unrelated. And how old is he?

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