Possibly more of a WWYD as well as an AIBU
DD (11) is going to secondary school in September. She is very clever and she has managed to get a scholarship to the local private school. We have visited many times and she has always said that she likes it and wants to go.
We said that it was her choice if she wanted to go to the local state secondary or the private school and she choose the private school.
She has only ever had one really close friend in school this friend is moving abroad so she was never going to be in the same secondary as DD so it wasn't an issue.
However since Christmas DD has also become close to another girl who I will call Sue. Sue started at the school in September and she used to be friendly with one girl but they fell out so she is now being friend's with DD and her friend.
Admittedly I'm weary of this friendship. Sue can be disruptive in the school (DD has told me and I have witnessed it during assemblies etc)
Sue has been here a few times and she has broken things and answered back. The last time she was here I called her parents to pick her up after an hour because she was mean to my other DCs and when I warned she broke their things. DD watches sue do these things and sometimes laughs but she doesn't get involved and is well behaved in school.
So to the point. DD came home tonight and said that she has decided that she wants to go to the state school because that's where Sue is going. I said that it wasn't possible she already has a place in the private school. She could keep in touch with sue but she couldn't go to the state school.
She threw an awful tantrum , she screamed at me that she hates us all and she wants to leave home. She slammed the doors. I told her to go to her room and stay there till she calmed down. She threw a picture frame which smashed on her way up and I could hear her banging about in her room.
She is quiet now and her light is off so I think she has gone to sleep in a mood.
I don't know what to do with her now. She can't go to the secondary school and I don't want her to anyway.
Also dh (who is away at the moment) doesn't think I should punish her because she was upset. But I think she should be punished for breaking things and screaming.
So AIBU to punish her and how do I help become happier with going to secondary school.
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DD(11) tantrum over secondary school
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CalibratedNellyphant · 10/05/2016 21:25
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