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Just be b***"y on time!

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Watchingnetflix Tue 10-May-16 11:18:27

Just need to vent really... ExH, father of my ds's is useless, completely unreliable, hasn't given me a penny for over two years now (own business, earns nothing on paper, been down CSA route for years).

Today he is taking ds1 to orthodontic appt in town 1.5 hrs away as it's in his two days with the boys. I offered to take him myself if he gave me petrol money (I'm really skint) but he said he'd take him.

I messaged him a reminder yesterday evening with the time again, and said ds1 would need to eat beforehand as he's not going to be able to for a while after. I text him again this morning to remind him. Supposed to collect him at 10, turns up at half past, he's never going to make the appt.

I call the dentist as they're not going to have much service en route and he's missed the whole appointment, they can't fit him in today at all as he was booked to see specialist and orthodontist at same time. Initially looked like they couldn't reschedule for two months but luckily she found a cancellation for 2 weeks time.

I'm so so cross, ds1 had missed a whole day of school as ExH was taking him on down to work with him after completely pointlessly. Also what a total waste of time for the two dentists he was booked in with.

Why do I still get wound up by this man?

I'm kicking myself too thinking I should have taken him but I genuinely have only got £20 til Friday


Pseudonym99 Tue 10-May-16 11:31:50

Just take him yourself in the future.

BlackeyedSusan Tue 10-May-16 11:31:54


BlackeyedSusan Tue 10-May-16 11:33:51

easy to say take him yourself though when it could have been £20 in petrol to get there. and it was his fathers day so that could have caused problems.

I would accidently letthe school know though when you apologise for needing more time off for another apppointent.

leelu66 Tue 10-May-16 11:41:52

ugh, no advice, but commiserations that you have to deal with this twunt.

Was he apologetic at all?

HermioneJeanGranger Tue 10-May-16 11:44:16

Why was he late?

Watchingnetflix Tue 10-May-16 11:46:38

I'd have needed to put £15 on the car to get there for sure.

I'm definitely taking him in future for sure, I'm sure if I'd insisted he would have kicked off just to be awkward though.

I was so relieved they could fit him in in two weeks because of a cancellation as it would have extendend his braces wearing by another two months otherwise.

I messaged ExH to explain the situation and about how he had a specialist and orthodontist booked and how hard it is to get an appt booked with both and that he's missed school for no reason and he's just said "it is what it is"

Fucking fucking twat.

Watchingnetflix Tue 10-May-16 11:48:28

Not a jot of apology, but then he never does apologise. Apparently he just thought it wouldn't take so long to get there.

This is a journey he has done numerous times to this town. Also you know... He has a phone and a sat nav...

LittleMiniPainAuChocolat Tue 10-May-16 11:58:18

It sounds as though he did it on purpose! What an arse!

AdjustableWench Tue 10-May-16 12:06:20

I feel your pain. Similar things have happened with my ex. The only thing that works for me is scheduling stuff so that I never have to rely on my ex because he doesn't seem to understand the nature of time.

It's also frustrating that he thinks it takes half an hour to get from A to B, when in fact it's the motorway part of the journey that takes half an hour; in reality it takes 45 minutes door to door, and even then only if you're lucky with parking. You'd think the experience of being constantly late would lead to learning that it takes longer!

Could you swap days with your ex if you end up with an orthodontist appointment on a day that supposed to be his?

Watchingnetflix Tue 10-May-16 13:59:02

I have to usually take whatever appt they can give as they're so busy and I'm tied around traveling times as I also have to take youngest to school and pick up later. Swapping days with ExH is usually a total nightmare as he takes 3/4 days to even respond to a phone call or message and then if he can be awkward be will.

Just been for a run to calm down but still fuming!

HermioneJeanGranger Tue 10-May-16 14:18:08

Ugh, he sounds awful!

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