We have a PFB DD, 14 months old, who's a really good eater. Will eat just about anything that we put in front of her. We cook most of our own meals, which are usually vegetarian (though we're not veggies ourselves).
However, I'm a bit worried about DH giving her snacks. I don't want her to have anything sugary, salty or too fatty - although the occasional biscuit or ice cream is fine. But what worries me most is that DH gives her something to eat - whether it's raisins or a bit of his marmite on toast - whenever she's angry or crying. Basically offering food to distract her, rather than using other methods. I'm worried that she's going to associate food with comfort, rather than fuel. And today I changed her nappy and (TMI) there was a huge load of raisins in there...
She's got a little roundy tummy, but I wouldn't say that she's a very chubby baby, just normal, I guess. And she's still being breastfed, if that makes any difference.
I've told DH my concerns, but he rarely listens to me (a whole other discussion) but I'm not sure whether I'm BU here. I know that I have my own issues around food, which I'm desperate not to pass on to my daughter. I'm an overeater, and have relied on food to cheer me up when I'm unhappy, or to do something when I'm bored, and I definitely eat when I'm stressed too. I'm trying to get this under control as I don't want DD to be lumbered with my food issues.
So that makes me wonder whether I'm BU about how my DH offers DD food. He's skinny, needs to eat a lot as he cycles a lot. I'm also trying to make sure that DD grows up knowing that not all food is 'bad', which is why I think the occasional biscuit or ice cream is fine.
So, Mumsnet, AIBU here, or should I really try and get my DH to listen to my concerns? (He will, if I back them up with 'evidence')
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To be annoyed with the way that DH offers DD snacks
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Marama · 10/05/2016 11:15
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