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AIBU to hand over my holiday decision making to MN?

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emsyj Sun 08-May-16 21:33:44

On account of being so fucking sick of trying to find a holiday that DH doesn't think will be shit EVERY year? ?? And also - to not want to go on another sodding 'cottage' holiday where I have to do food shopping, cooking, tidying up and generally suffer that creeping feeling that this is, in fact, not a holiday, but just an expensive way to spend a week in a smaller and less convenient house than my own?

In case you cannot tell, I am utterly fed up. I want to book a week's holiday for me, DH and 2 DDs (3 and 6). Owing to work and school holidays, we need to go sometime between 5th August and end of August. DH doesn't want to be near people, doesn't want any noise, doesn't want to fly anywhere, doesn't want to drive a long distance, doesn't want to stay anywhere that isn't deluxe, doesn't want to spend any money, doesn't want to share a pool, doesn't want to not have a pool, wants a garden etc etc etc. All I want is a week when I don't have to plan what we will all have for dinner every day and do food shopping. I do not do not do not want to go self catering.

So, I call upon the wisdom of Mumsnet to tell me where the hell we can go.

Choughed Sun 08-May-16 21:36:14


Find a holiday that suits you and your DDs.

Leave your fuckwit husband at home.

Buggers Sun 08-May-16 21:39:24

Where abouts are you? I can't think of anywhere you could go he would be happy with... I agree those cottages are a joke, exactly the same as being at home but your paying to do it!

BusStopBetty Sun 08-May-16 21:40:22

I agree with Choughed.

getlostdailyfail Sun 08-May-16 21:42:19

Honestly just book to go abroad. You can have a super lovely time at an all inclusive resort.

Buggers Sun 08-May-16 21:43:03

I was going to say to go abroad, why won't he fly?

Kidnapped Sun 08-May-16 21:44:34

Can you have two breaks?

One City-break type thing for 3 or 4 days. Staying in a decent hotel and eating out at nice restaurants. London or Bath or similar.

Then a seaside cottage/camping/CentreParks for another 3 or 4 days? With DH doing the bulk of the cooking?

YorkieDorkie Sun 08-May-16 21:46:36

Also agree with choughed.

grumpysquash3 Sun 08-May-16 21:46:59

How about getting your DH to find the holiday? Just tell him you won't be doing the food.

HemanOrSheRa Sun 08-May-16 21:48:34

Yy what Choughed said. Or tell your DH to find a holiday.

BusStopBetty Sun 08-May-16 21:51:54

To be honest, I prefer an apartment to a hotel with kids. Unless I could afford a suite (I can't). However, I do not cook, fuck that. I don't mind doing breakfast, but anything more than chucking a croissant at the breakfasters and I'm on strike.

emsyj Sun 08-May-16 21:52:04

The two-breaks thing idea is interesting Kidnapped. We will both have a few weeks off over the summer so that is a possibility... He works in London though so he won't want to go there! I would love to take the kids sightseeing in London but he commutes there for 2 days each week so that would be awful for him - which I do understand and accept.
Maybe Bath or Edinburgh though?

Re: why won't he fly - he's never liked flying, and every time there is a story of a plane going down in the news it makes it worse. He is fairly terrified of it now. Although when I told him how much it would cost to do a week's half board in Bournemouth, he said we should just go abroad then!!

BusStopBetty Sun 08-May-16 21:54:02

I would skimp on the accommodation to be sure I could eat out the whole holiday.

A friend has been showing me the villa she's booked. It doesn't even have a dishwasher, and is in the middle of nowhere so someone will be driving back from the town, and not drinking.

AnneEyhtMeyer Sun 08-May-16 21:55:30

If DH refused to fly I would go on holiday without him.

emsyj Sun 08-May-16 21:55:49

Re: getting DH to find the holiday - HAHAHAHAHAHA. That would just never happen. He would say he was going to do it, then would either never get around to it, or book some remote self-catering lodge in the wilds of Scotland with nothing to do for miles. He would love nothing more than to do country walks and read a book. Maybe I should send him off to do just that with the DDs and I stay at home and have the week off???

BusStopBetty Sun 08-May-16 21:56:12

Ferry? Eurostar? Plenty of places that aren't a sodding cottage you can reach that way.

madcapcat Sun 08-May-16 21:56:47

Edinburgh is brilliant (I'm biased) but festival will be on then so a) crowded and b) expensive. Can't think of anything to suggest though

RockMeMomma Sun 08-May-16 22:06:21

How about a cruise or somewhere like a hotel in the lake district?

RockMeMomma Sun 08-May-16 22:06:45

Euro tunnel or ferry to Europe?

emsyj Sun 08-May-16 22:13:26

Ferry to Europe is a possibility. Will definitely look into that, thanks.

I hate the Lake District (sorry) - think actually I am probably as fussy as him! grin You couldn't pay me enough to go on a cruise either!

I suppose the real crux of the issue is - we want a hotel so that I don't have to cook/shop, but also privacy/separate sleeping area for the DDs so that we can stay up once they've gone to bed. But this seems to be quite hard to find in the UK, and very expensive when you do find it. I am not convinced it's that easy to find in a short-haul European destination, either - and I don't think I could face long haul until the DDs are older.

JapanNextYear Sun 08-May-16 22:14:26

Go on two holidays. Exactly as you say above, he takes kids somewhere remote and sc and you take them to London. Next year work something else out.

Kidnapped Sun 08-May-16 22:24:48

Nah, there's loads of serviced apartment-type hotels in cities and largish towns. At home and in Europe.

Have a look on expedia or similar. Specify 2 adults, 2 kids, 2 bedrooms and it will come back with loads of aparthotels.

We've been to loads of aparthotels in Europe and at home. Didn't pay a fortune either.

RockMeMomma Sun 08-May-16 23:03:04

Hotel with self catering somewhere like Devon or Cornwall?

watchingthedetectives Sun 08-May-16 23:09:37

The apartments in the St Moritz hotel in cornwall are nice (dont think the 'villas' are as nice)
On the beach, all the hotel facilities - indoor pool/Cowshed spa/restaurant/outdoor pool
it is self catering but you can eat in the hotel or loads of places nearby if you walk to Rock or Polzeath
Obviously the weather maybe shite

DontFeedTheDailyFail Sun 08-May-16 23:10:05

A holiday cottage with pool near a town so you can have takeaway delivered every day like room service (but cheaper).

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