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To be seething he got away with it *trigger warning*

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NotAnotherNameChangeAgain Sun 08-May-16 19:59:03

I'm so angry.
I probably shouldn't be posting for anonymits reasons but I don't care.
A few years ago I had to run away from my job as a Nanny having been witness to Dad Boss severely physically abusing his child. (Welt maresults, hand prints and bruises on child hours later) I had been working for the family for a while, whilst I suspected abuse before this had been the first time I'd have concrete proof.
I left immediately and called the police, who upon seeing the marks on the child for themselves arrested the Dad.
I have no heard from the family since that night and after being interviewed by the police (and the RSPCC for good measure) heard very little.
I heard that other staff members came forward, there were some reports of further physical abuse, sexual abuse and extensive verbal abuse. There are 3 children.
I heard that a social worker had been assigned to their case.

It took a long long time but I managed to put it mostly behind me. Confident that SS were on the case and that the mother could perhaps now escape with the kids. It took me a while to shake off the fear that the Dad (who is extremely wealthy) was going to send someone after me.

Since then I've been trying to get on with it and have been honest about the almost 2 year gap in my CV despite some parents at interview being less than supportive (1 parent told me I "overreacted" by calling the police and should have just talked to the parents)

I have just found out that the parents are together and have emigrated with their family to a mansion in an exotic location (I've been there. It's heaven). Despite photp evidence from myself and the arresting officers and numerous statements from a variety of witnesses - he got away with it.
He now lives with his children in paradise.

I loved those children with all my heart.
AIBU to be beside myself with anger?

TheSparrowhawk Sun 08-May-16 20:00:35

YANBU. I don't know what else to say, I'm so sorry.

Pisssssedofff Sun 08-May-16 20:01:57

It seems to happen a lot

MammaTJ Sun 08-May-16 20:04:09

You did your best, it is others who failed them!

I don't think he will 'get away with it' though. The children will remember and make their own judgements and that can be harsher than prison!


MumOnTheRunCatchingUp Sun 08-May-16 20:05:25

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NotAnotherNameChangeAgain Sun 08-May-16 20:07:11

Feel free to search me and read my previous threads. Not my first time posting, not my first time mentioning this. But thanks

NotAnotherNameChangeAgain Sun 08-May-16 20:08:13

Sorry, I don't mean to be rude.
I'm so angry.
Not surprised. But angry

Skittlesss Sun 08-May-16 20:08:39

That's so sad sad those poor children.

OddBoots Sun 08-May-16 20:11:09

I think I remember you posting about this before quite some time ago. I am sorry to hear he has got away with it. Is the place they are living a place that would take child abuse seriously?

PortiaCastis Sun 08-May-16 20:12:17

Dont really know what to say. Poor children how sad

SnookieSnooks Sun 08-May-16 20:12:19

YANBU. It sounds like the Dad got around social services. Among my friends and family, there are a lot of bad experiences with social services. One of my friends (a grandparent) spent months begging social services to help her grandchildren and daughter. They ignored her and in the end the Dad beat up her daughter in front of the kids. They still ignored her.... In fact my DP is being taken to court by our local council due to the fact that social services have told lie after lie. eg claimed to have done stuff but have no documentary evidence.

hobybabo Sun 08-May-16 20:12:48


This is sad to read sad

Griphook Sun 08-May-16 20:12:50

I remember you posting about this ages ago, just goes to show what money can buy! Poor children

NotAnotherNameChangeAgain Sun 08-May-16 20:16:10

I think I did post about it around the time actually. Under a different name.
I was desperate for support back then.

I have little knowledge about SS in the country they're in. I'd post which it is but I'm not sure where I stand legally about posting too much info.

I'don't hope he gets his recompense via his children when they're older but I'm not so sure. He's a shower them in love (after he's laid into them) type

LineyReborn Sun 08-May-16 20:16:18

Why would you have been interviewed by the RSPCC? And if that's a typo for NSPCC, same question really.

NotAnotherNameChangeAgain Sun 08-May-16 20:16:43

I DO hope. Obviously!

NotAnotherNameChangeAgain Sun 08-May-16 20:17:35

It was a charity protecting children. Another staff member contacted them so that there would be pressure coming from all sides.

Pineapplemilkshake Sun 08-May-16 20:19:05

I presume you meant NSPCC. They don't interview people.

Ringadingdingdong22 Sun 08-May-16 20:20:28

Bloody hell that's awful. Those poor children. What a cunt. I'd be raging too.

Oly5 Sun 08-May-16 20:20:48

can you try the police,social services and NSPCC again?
maybe they can share info with the other country
bless you for trying to help those poor kids

Lightbulbon Sun 08-May-16 20:24:58

If the child didn't corroborate the abuse there is nothing the police or ss can do.

It's likely the dad scared them into silence.

It's a real loophole in our system.

The kids will wise up to him when they are older though.

LineyReborn Sun 08-May-16 20:30:41

Perhaps you can chase up the NSPCC. It's about time they did something.

makingmiracles Sun 08-May-16 20:40:33

The nspcc don't actually do anything though afaik, they are simply a middleman. When abuse is reported all they do is report it to children services.

ImperialBlether Sun 08-May-16 20:44:59

I've reported abuse to the NSPCC and had to outline my concerns. They passed it on to a social worker though I was never told the outcome. I wouldn't call it an interview, but they were thorough.

ExtraHotLatteToGo Sun 08-May-16 20:49:34

I'd report them to the agencies where they live now.

I'd follow it up with the police here. I don't know what you're entitled to know, but something surely.

Poor kids 🙁

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