Bit of backgrounds, my sister had a really bad drug problem when she was younger, took over our families lives from me being about 15, lots of drama and heart ache. She stole from the family, put my parents through hell, and childish though it sounds now took all the parental time and attention. She has three kids, none of whom can live with her, and although is off drugs now, does not act totally 'normal' for want of a better word, makes bad boyfriends choices and is exhausting to be around as is very repetitive and self centred. We don't live in the same place, and get on ok when we see each other (very rarely when she visits me with my mum) so I am not NC but I maintain no real independent sisterly relationship as I just don't really like her they much as a person. Saying I haven't forgiven is actually probably quite strong, as I no longer have any particular strong feelings and just live my own life, but I do feel that she negatively affected my life hugely and I just have no desire to have a deeper relationship. She on the other hand always tries to get deep and meaningful, saying she wants a close sister relationship and wants to visit me on her own and etc. She kind of has no social awareness and will outright invite herself to which I act totally non commitall, and she will put my mum in am awkward position asking why I don't want her to stay etc. She'll text me or start going into a monologue when I see her about her she's changed and is doing everything she can to make it up to everyone but to me really it's just words and comes across as self pity. So, am I bring unreasonable and harsh to just want to keep a distant relationship and wish she'd just drop it? Sorry, turned really really long!
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