Ds is 11 going on 12.His dad mentioned that he wants to take him to America for a week this summer. We're in Ireland.
Great, you'd think, except that they have never spent more than 2 nights together in all the years -it's usually one Fri/Sat overnight each week.
Ds has not been away from me other than overnights with his dad for any longer than a night ,when he might stay overnight with a longtime friend (of DS) who lives closeby or with my mother , also lives nearby.
I don't deliberately keep him close-I haven't much option/necessity.
Ds is an anxious child (in process of assessment for dyscalculia/dyslexia-maybe not relevant).He is immature for his age as a result ,I think.
Ds says he feels pressured by his dad when he's with him, to go to on this trip ,but he's asked not to say anything to his dad about that. Their relationship isn't close-DS is a natural homebird but his dad has never done anything to encourage a stronger bond, has never gone out of his way to see more of him etc.I have never stood in the way of them having more time together-it was never an option.
This trip is to see family, so I think Ds is being taken along to mix with relatives which is a good thing but I KNOW he'll be left in the care of whoever is taking care of the other children, so not a bonding experience.
I suggested that his Dad take him somewhere in Ireland for a few days/week before planning the trip to America , to see how things go.
That didn't go down well-I am being negative, apparently.
I would love a week off but not if my son was miserable and " couldn't get back so he'd have to get on with it wouldn't he"
Thoughts please TIA
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bluebrushes · 05/05/2016 21:27
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