Posted elsewhere but didn't get any responses so trying here.
So i'll just jump straight into this. (Sorry this is long and also reading this back I'm aware of how juvenile this sounds)
DP and I live a few hours away so only get to see each other on weekends, we've been together a few years.
I was sexully assaulted and attacked 5 months ago (it happened in another country) he's usually supportive and has helped me a great deal, it's not been easy but I was in an ok place up until two weeks ago when I had to spend the weekend in said country (family visit)
I know I've been really anxious and needy since I've come home so I think I could be overreacting and this might be really petty, my heads a bit all over the place so I genuinely have no clue as to if I'm being too hard on him or not.
I was really anxious about the trip and it was pretty horrible when I was there (panic attacks and flashback ect) he was pretty busy all weekend so he wasn't available when I called or text him (this isn't what this is about, it just hurt.)
Anyway he invited me over the weekend after but I really couldn't face travelling and people at that time so we didn't see each other that weekend, he made different plans and came over on bank holiday Monday but not for long.
So this week he's invited me to an event with a few of his friends on a Friday night, I've been a bit unsure because I still don't feel myself but I haven't really seen Dp properly and I know he'd leave with me if it was too much and I know his friends that are going and like them so I have been leaning on the side of going but still not sure.
Then he invited me to a different event Saturday night, he said he was seeing old friends all day Saturday but would like to go to this event with me in the evening.
I had no idea he was seeing friends on the Saturday when he invited me on Friday so if I had gone on Friday I would have met up with him in the late evening gone to the event stayed over and then would have had to leave in the morning (considering it's such a long way, I feel a bit hard done by by this) (these are different friends who I don't know and would be awkward for me to go since and I'm really not into meeting new people right now, which he knows hence why I wasn't invited)
And by inviting me to Saturday event he's essentially uninviting me on Friday because I wouldn't be able to just go home Saturday morning while he see's his friends come back later Saturday evening.
Are you still with me?
So I said I still wasn't 100% sure about going right now because I'm still anxious and then he asked if I would be mad if he invited the friends he's going out with on Saturday to the event Saturday night. So now I wont be seeing him at all this weekend.
I just burst into tears and I don't know what to say, I feel like he's just not making an effort with me anymore.
And my head is so over the place I'm just not sure if I'm being petty and this actually isn't a big deal, I just could really do with some advice right now.
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Feeling like Dp isn't making the effort anymore
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Namechangedforadvicenow · 05/05/2016 20:29
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