To think that people now treat me different from what they used to.

(57 Posts)
midlifehope Wed 04-May-16 20:38:41

People in my local village and town used to be very friendly with me, often chatting etc. Of late, people seem to avoid me suddenly, or just give me a few brief moments of their time. I can't seem to get on the 'inside' of any group. Am I paranoid? Has the social climate changed. Is there some odd rumour or gossip that has spread about me (I don't live a remotely outrageous or scandalous life). Is it that I'm older and more grey and not as girly looking so not as approachable?. When I go to another town or village, people treat me more normally. It makes me think that a rumour has spread or something. I'm very happy in my life, with two ds's which I adore, a rough diamond partner, and a house I love. Are people envious. I wish I knew what was going on?

PPie10 Wed 04-May-16 20:40:10

Is it every single person? If so that's very odd.

frumpet Wed 04-May-16 20:40:56

The words that jumped out at me here are 'rough diamond partner ', might not be you as such !

midlifehope Wed 04-May-16 20:42:08

Yeah, more or less every person. Either I'm paranoid and imagining it, or something odd is going on, or my behaviour has changed (less open or approachable or something) I've literally NO idea....

Vardyparty Wed 04-May-16 20:42:22

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Cryingwithlaughter91 Wed 04-May-16 20:42:53

Sometimes I think people are just afraid of the Unknown. Many People in villages and even towns like to be in with each other and if they don't know much about someone they can gossip and speculate. It's absolutely ridiculous. I get treated the same way at the School gates lol, the only real stipulation people might have about me is that I'm exceedingly quiet and never draw attention to myself.

midlifehope Wed 04-May-16 20:44:10

You think it could be dp frumpet. In what way? We're pretty independent so not often out together in public. When we are people are more friendly - oddly! shock

midlifehope Wed 04-May-16 20:46:18

Crying, you think It might be a small town mentality....... interesting, but that wouldn't explain why they used to be more friendly. School gates are ODD places aren't they?

Cryingwithlaughter91 Wed 04-May-16 20:51:02

Midlifehope - I said nothing about mentality. I also said 'many' not referring to 'all' because you can't categorise anyone.
Perhaps you can tell me how such. quiet person as myself is treated differently then? Cause I definitely haven't done anything wrong 😂

Cryingwithlaughter91 Wed 04-May-16 20:52:52

Oooh I just read that back and that looks so narky I do apologise! I mean it all in good humour :-) X

sunnydayinmay Wed 04-May-16 20:53:31

Do you have a friend you could ask? If there is a rumour circulating, you ought to know.

frumpet Wed 04-May-16 20:57:18

Have you upset anyone at school then ?

Cryingwithlaughter91 Wed 04-May-16 20:59:34

No, I just get on with my day and say a nice hello and a how are you etc.

midlifehope Wed 04-May-16 21:01:34

No I haven't upset anyone at school. I'm almost afraid to ask a friend!!

Backpfeifengesicht Wed 04-May-16 21:04:06

I don't know how old your Ds's are, could they be a stage when they're getting into trouble at school or teenage delinquent type stuff? Perhaps they are developing a bit of a reputation that you are unaware of? Sorry I'm not suggesting that's the case but trying to think of something that could make people treat you differently.

LaConnerie Wed 04-May-16 21:09:20

Hm that's a strange one. Do you have a friend you trust in your village who you could ask to tell you if she knows anything?

Otherwise, is your partner a new partner? And how rough a diamond is he? Are we talking ex-con rough or just a bit of dirt under his fingernails?

WriteforFun1 Wed 04-May-16 21:09:47

Has your partner pissed anyone off?

midlifehope Wed 04-May-16 21:10:04

back, no they're 4 and just started. The other is a baby

mummyto2monkeys Wed 04-May-16 21:11:50

My worry would be that your husband has been up to something he shouldn't and they are too embarrassed to look you in the eye.

Tiggeryoubastard Wed 04-May-16 21:12:04

What do you mean by 'rough diamond'?

midlifehope Wed 04-May-16 21:13:31

haha dp definitely. not a criminal, dirt under fingernails more like. i wonder if hes inadvertently said something about me that has spread to a rumor. He's a bit aspergersy - says what he thinks without social mores iykwim.

JewryMember Wed 04-May-16 21:15:22

By rough diamond do you mean he's been in the slammer? He's a cage fighter with a donor card? He has no teeth? What?

JewryMember Wed 04-May-16 21:16:34

Aspergersy??? shock

midlifehope Wed 04-May-16 21:16:50

jewry - salty non pc sailor type - no criminal background wink

midlifehope Wed 04-May-16 21:17:54

on the specrum a little, sorry aspergersy sounds clumsy.

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