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to think ds should be given another badge?

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DorothyL Wed 04-May-16 15:52:27

He is 9 and has a statement of sn. Rituals and certain items make him feel secure. Over the year he has earnt three metal merit badges in school and putting them on his jumper and wearing them is an essential part of his routine. He lost one earlier in the year and was given a replacement by school. He now lost another one and was told he couldn't have another replacement. Aibu to think the school should allow him another replacement in light of his circumstances?

Toffeelatteplease Wed 04-May-16 15:53:55

I would offer to pay for another one

PPie10 Wed 04-May-16 15:55:13

If you pay for it then yes he should. If not then Yabu.

PattiLevin Wed 04-May-16 15:55:35

What toffee said. And yes they should as that would be kind.

NeedMoreSleepOrSugar Wed 04-May-16 15:56:21

Did they explain why? If they don't have any more of that badge, then they should have explained. If its because they don't want to keep replacing badges, then I'd offer to pay for it. (or order one online if its a generic merit badge)

DorothyL Wed 04-May-16 15:59:10

They said he couldn't have one because he already had one replaced.

PPie10 Wed 04-May-16 16:01:29

Yes but they can't keep on giving him unlimited badges. If he keeps losing them then they shouldn't have to keep replacing it.!

PPie10 Wed 04-May-16 16:01:48

Sorry rogue !

Toffeelatteplease Wed 04-May-16 16:02:50

Even if you pay for it?

If you've offered to pay and they are still saying no then that is very unreasonable

DorothyL Wed 04-May-16 16:03:13

I would agree with you were it not for the fact that ds's special needs mean he is emotionally more affected than another child, as well as clumsier and therefore more likely to lose them.

DorothyL Wed 04-May-16 16:03:43

Haven't had a chance to offer to pay for it yet, but will

CoolforKittyCats Wed 04-May-16 16:04:07

Have you offered to pay?

DorothyL Wed 04-May-16 16:04:57

No not yet

AnchorDownDeepBreath Wed 04-May-16 16:05:36

I imagine they'll give one to you if you offer to pay.

He probably needs to stop wearing them on his jumper, though. Could he stick them to something he can carry round with him instead? That way you could sellotape them on.

DorothyL Wed 04-May-16 16:06:29

Then he'd probably leave them somewhere...

Toffeelatteplease Wed 04-May-16 16:07:03

I'm speaking as a mum to a child with needs that are described as complex. Including dyspraxia and ASD.

DorothyL Wed 04-May-16 16:07:17

He is very proud of them, as they are one of the only things that he can impress his peers with

Toffeelatteplease Wed 04-May-16 16:07:34

Sew them onto the jumper

DorothyL Wed 04-May-16 16:09:22

Good idea but he wears different ones each day, they need washing...

Toffeelatteplease Wed 04-May-16 16:10:03

Sods law just pay for the replacement then

Vajazzler Wed 04-May-16 16:10:32

Can you just replace it yourself?

There are lots on ebay for a few pounds


NeedMoreSleepOrSugar Wed 04-May-16 16:10:35

If they mean a lot to him, it might be worth stocking up on a few? If school can't/won't sell them to you, I'm sure you can get them online - these perhaps? or these?

ItsAllGoingToBeFine Wed 04-May-16 16:12:01

Find out who the school supplier us and see if you can bulk buy a bag - I doubt they are particularly expensive, but probably an unjustifiable expense for the school IYSWIM.

DorothyL Wed 04-May-16 16:12:26

Great idea, will stock up.
Am annoyed though, why couldn't the school just talk to me instead of flatly saying no to ds? Makes me wonder how much they really know/understand him

MajesticSeaFlapFlap Wed 04-May-16 16:13:32

Yeah I'd buy a few so you have some on hand.
The school shouldn't have to keep.paying for new ones

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