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JenniferYellowHat1980 Wed 04-May-16 09:28:42

I've just seen something that made me a bit uncomfortable but I think there's probably nothing I can do.

After dropping DS off at nursery I walked past a woman and girl of about 4 sitting on a bench outside a pub that's been closed a while. They were surrounded by bags and the woman was pouring what looked like booze (it could've been something non-alcoholic) into a coffee cup. I walked past again after doing a little bit of shopping and they seemed OK, but I just got the impression that both of them were a bit vulnerable. I gave SS a quick call just to see if there's anything they could do but expecting to be told no, and the person I spoke to said that depending on how I felt about it maybe I could call the police.

I don't know. I live in a really small rural town with no visible homeless population and I wonder if I've just got my judgypants hoiked up too far about the possible booze at 9am.

Would I be wasting police time if I mentioned it?

I mean well, please don't give me a bashing if I come across as a busybody.

ChinUpChestOut Wed 04-May-16 09:32:18

If you can, walk back and just ask the Mum if everything's all right. Assume the worst - maybe she's been thrown out by her DH, or she felt she had to leave. Or maybe she's lost. At the very least, if she needs a women's refuge, you might be able to make that phone call for her. Or maybe buy her a cup of coffee/juice for the little girl?

JenniferYellowHat1980 Wed 04-May-16 09:33:17

It's too late, I didn't want to intrude at the time and then they went to a charity shop. To be honest I was probably a bit scared that she would be insulted.

JenniferYellowHat1980 Wed 04-May-16 09:33:38

I could go back.

wednesdaysocks Wed 04-May-16 09:37:18

Go to the charity shop and ask there? It may have been that she was donating loads of stuff and the that's what the bags were and the drink was purely innocent.

ChinUpChestOut Wed 04-May-16 09:38:00

Do it. You care enough to ask on here what to do. Yes, you might get an earful, but if she's back sitting on the bench then she might need a little help in her life today.

JenniferYellowHat1980 Wed 04-May-16 09:40:37

Just seen her at a bus stop. Going to bite the bullet and ask.

JenniferYellowHat1980 Wed 04-May-16 09:47:49

Done and she said she wasn't offended. Said they'd missed their bus but she had a phone and something about getting something fixed. The girl seemed very happy. I suspect all is not completely ok but she could've had help if she wanted it.

Feel pretty silly but also a bit more comfortable.

TheExtraGuineaPig Wed 04-May-16 09:56:08

Well done you for going back. I think you handled it really well and it's great to know there are people like you looking out for someone who could have been in trouble. X

ChinUpChestOut Wed 04-May-16 10:00:17

Lots of flowers for you today. You did a good thing. Maybe her knowing that a complete stranger cared enough to ask after her will give her the little bit of strength she needs to keep going. Or just to feel good, and not alone.

ihatethecold Wed 04-May-16 10:04:08

You absolutely did the right thing.
Lots of people (friends) turned a blind eye years ago when I was in a desperate situation.
If a stranger had offered me help I would've been very grateful.

MrsEricBana Wed 04-May-16 10:06:33

Very kind indeed. Hope she is ok.

MrsEricBana Wed 04-May-16 10:08:13

Someone offered to help me get home once when I was in a sad situation (with baby at the hospital) and although I was fine I was so touched and have never forgotten that person's kindness.

RainyMornings Wed 04-May-16 10:12:53

You were super brave to go back, many people would be too worried about being shouted at. It may be nothing so no harm done, or you may have shown her that you've seen her, if you know what I mean. Well done smile

JenniferYellowHat1980 Wed 04-May-16 10:21:48

Just a bit blush that in my own discomfort at the whole situation I didn't think to offer them a lift. Ah well, at least they won't miss the bus this time!

araiba Wed 04-May-16 11:29:54

you called social services and police because someone missed their bus? wtf

ihatethecold Wed 04-May-16 12:03:49

She didn't call the police!

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