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To ask you to arbitrate on a dispute about laundry etiquette?

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MovingOnUpMovingOnOut Tue 03-May-16 20:43:26

So, dh and I disagree. He is clearly wrong but thought I should put it to the Mumsnet jury because I'm putting off doing bedtime

So, you live in a house where the adult children wash their own clothes and one adult (for the sake of argument we'll call this adult Mrs Overall) is responsible for washing everything else that is in the laundry box including kids clothes and towels. Mrs O hangs out, sorts and folds and Mr Overall does putting away, leaving a pile for adult children of anything that has worked its way into the shared laundry box by mistake.

If you got up just before 10 after the school run and saw there was an open washing machine with about 4 unwashed items inside would you

a) Take no notice
b) Add your own items to the laundry and put it on running a half load
c) Ask the only adult in the house if they had finished with the machine because you want to do some laundry
d) Assume someone is using the machine and come back later if you want to do some washing yourself.

Just to reiterate dh is wrong. Some details have been changed to protect the feckless

Over to you.

YouCantBeSadHoldingACupcake Tue 03-May-16 20:45:37


LoudBatPerson Tue 03-May-16 20:46:11


If having asked the person they had nothing else to add then I would top it up and do a full load of my stuff and any general house bits.

Crisscrosscranky Tue 03-May-16 20:46:12

E. Grab a bat as no one else in my house uses the washing machine so I'd assume I had an intruder.

limon Tue 03-May-16 20:46:51

I'd take it out and do my own washing.

srslylikeomg Tue 03-May-16 20:47:13

I'd do B.

Chorltonswheelies422 Tue 03-May-16 20:47:13


srslylikeomg Tue 03-May-16 20:48:02

Ha! Crisscrosscranky

MangoBiscuit Tue 03-May-16 20:48:04

Depends if the things in the machine match the load I want to put on. Lights, darks, delicates, or hot wash. If it does, I'd include them in the wash.

Chorltonswheelies422 Tue 03-May-16 20:48:34

Thrilled you got Mrs Overall into the thread - <RIP Victoria W>

bettybear Tue 03-May-16 20:48:53

I'd do B

MovingOnUpMovingOnOut Tue 03-May-16 20:48:55

Heh heh Crisscross grin

SpringHasNearlySprung Tue 03-May-16 20:49:33


Cel982 Tue 03-May-16 20:49:33

B or C, I suppose. C, really, if the owner of the clothes was within shouting distance.

(But then, an old flatmate once tore strips off me for taking her clean washing out of the machine so I could put on a load of my own confused. So my laundry etiquette may be sub-par.)

dementedpixie Tue 03-May-16 20:49:41

Depends whether the person who finds the laundry wants to do their own washing so it could be any of the answers really

LauraMipsum Tue 03-May-16 20:52:18


elephantoverthehill Tue 03-May-16 20:52:33

Congratulate yourself on finding a Mr O.

MovingOnUpMovingOnOut Tue 03-May-16 20:53:55

To drip some info be clear the four items in the machine are a pair of rinsed weed on kids pyjamas, a child's fleece and a pair of kids pants. The last two items are dry and have been placed on top of the rinse PJs.

The door has been left wide open. The door is never wide open due to the space being restricted.

HuckleberryGin Tue 03-May-16 20:54:54


MarthaCliffYouCunt Tue 03-May-16 20:55:48

If i had washing to do and it matches what was in the machine i'd chuck mine in and wash it. If it didnt match mine i'd ask the owner if they minded if i used the machine for a full load. If i had no washing i'd take no notice.

44PumpLane Tue 03-May-16 20:56:55

I'd do combo of C and B- C if the other person is in,
B if they are out and the stuff in the washer is the same load type that I'm just about to put on.

ApocalypseSlough Tue 03-May-16 20:57:24


Janek Tue 03-May-16 20:58:26

It seems i'm the only one who would choose A...

MovingOnUpMovingOnOut Tue 03-May-16 20:58:40

Mrs Overall is not out. You've just watched her tidy the kitchen while not helping. She is however upstairs.

You have been up for 15 minutes.

TheDowagerCuntess Tue 03-May-16 20:58:56

Gosh, I have no idea. I might do anyone one of those things, depending on the current laundry situation.

Intrigued to know what the 'right' answer is...

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