Apologies in the advance for the long ramble - if it doesn't make sense, I blame being very, very sleep deprived...
Our 18 month old DS often doesn't sleep very well. I still BF him to sleep, both at first putting down and during the night, where he usually wakes once, for anything from 30 minutes to four hours (!).
DH tries occasionally in the night when it's been a particularly long time, but that just results in DS screaming for me ("MAMMYYYYY! Milk! Yes please!" while in floods of tears - never one to let abject misery get in the way of good manners), even if it ends up just with me rubbing his back and singing him to sleep.
DS also wakes very early - around 5am - probably 30-40% of mornings.
I'm in bed by 10pm every night, as I know this is likely to happen. DH is not. He will sit downstairs until about midnight most nights playing on his computer games.
So here is the problem. In the morning, DH will invariably tell me he needs more sleep and so can't/won't take DS to play downstairs until his normal alarm time of 6:45. Between these times I'm generally desperately trying to get DS to sleep in our bed, which sometimes works but more often ends up with him emptying out all the clothes and shoes from our wardrobe, drawers and laundry basket, and all the rubbish out of the bin. I often end up in tears because I am just so exhausted by this point having been up in the night AND early in the morning while I can hear DH snoring in bed.
We both work. DH is the breadwinner by some margin and commutes, while I work from home three days a week; however, I will soon be starting a full-time job in an office (for a slightly higher rate of pay, but still not approaching what DH brings to the family). I am and will continue to be responsible for dropping DS off at nursery/childminder every day.
I feel a bit guilty about complaining about this because DH contributes so much more financially to the household, and so it is more important that he performs well at work as we couldn't do without his income. But AIBU to think that he could come to bed earlier and be less exhausted early in the morning to give me an occasional extra few minutes in bed? (With the added benefit that it might bring more opportunities for the sex that he constantly moans about not having enough of?)
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AIBU?
To ask DH to take a bit of responsibility for his tiredness?
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rosettesforjill · 03/05/2016 11:44
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