joint birthday presents - how much do you pay?

[olddogsnewtricks]

At my children's school there tend to be a lot of joint birthday parties and we tend to group together to buy presents. The next one coming up is for five children and the mum who is buying the present has suggested ten euros for each child - so 50 euros but as I have twins so I would have to pay 100 euros . This is too much for me to spend in one go, on one party so I reluctantly said I wouldn't take part in the group present. I am not sure if I am being unreasonable though - to be fair we got loads of presents when my twins had their party (too many in fact!) but I feel when there are so many children having a party together it is not fair to ask me to pay double as it is ME paying, not my 7 year olds! AIBU or should I just suck it up?

[ghostyslovesheep]

fuck that shit - seriously

I buy one gift even if all 3 kids are invited - just stick 5 euros in each card

[rookiemere]

A party for 5 DCs, where the parents will only be paying 1/5 of the costs each. No way would I be paying 10 euros per child or double in your case.

My usual budget for party presents is £10, a bit more for special friends so up to £15. If it's a joint party and DS is primarily friendly with one of the DCs then they will get £10 voucher and £5 to the other party holder.

I'd spend whatever you were comfortable with.