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Ghanagirl Mon 02-May-16 17:03:04

AIBU to as ask my SIL to drop my twins home?
My two have been at SIL overnight (really unusual occurrence) I arranged to pick them up at midday but when I called to say I was about to leave home she said her big sis was on her way with her two kids so I shouldn't come just yet.
I'm really grateful that she's had them overnight but I'm tired and it's getting dark is at terrible to ask her or other SIL to drop them home as I hate driving when it's getting dark

Ghanagirl Mon 02-May-16 17:03:41

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Today 17:03 Ghanagirl

AIBU to as ask my SIL to drop my twins home?
My two have been at SIL overnight (really unusual occurrence) I arranged to pick them up at midday but when I called to say I was about to leave home she said her big sis was on her way with her two kids so I shouldn't come just yet.
I'm really grateful that she's had them overnight but I'm tired and it's getting dark is at terrible to ask her or other SIL to drop them home as I hate driving when it's getting dark



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Afreshstartplease Mon 02-May-16 17:03:45

Yanbu

Flossiesmummy Mon 02-May-16 17:04:37

So long as you ask nicely and would do the same in return, YANBU.

Sparkletastic Mon 02-May-16 17:04:44

It won't be dark for 3 hours yet. Go and get them now.

Cookingongas Mon 02-May-16 17:04:52

Yanbu to ask but graciously accept a no if it's given

lateforeverything Mon 02-May-16 17:04:53

Yanbu

Ghanagirl Mon 02-May-16 17:05:03

Sorry not sure what happened abive😊

FoxesSitOnBoxes Mon 02-May-16 17:05:11

A bit unreasonable. Any reason why you won't drive when it's getting dark? Are you a safe driver the rest of the time? If so then just turn the lights on and drive.
If it's going to be really difficult for you then ring and ask her to bring them back

ihatethecold Mon 02-May-16 17:07:06

Won't your kids be knackered by the time it gets dark

PerspicaciaTick Mon 02-May-16 17:07:50

Ask but don't expect.
Where do you live? We've got another 3 hours before sunset in London and I know that Scotland is even later.

ImperialBlether Mon 02-May-16 17:08:54

Sunset today is 8:38 pm. Go and fetch them yourself!

Squeegle Mon 02-May-16 17:09:17

I would just call and say, I'm coming to get them now hope that's ok, see you soon. If she says come later then say you hate to drive in the dark, and ask if she would drop them.

Ghanagirl Mon 02-May-16 17:11:02

Yes, I'm worried my two will be tired but I'm trying to be nice as my SIL's complain that I'm too uptight and they want to spend time with twins but really just want them home for school 2moro.
I hate driving at night but I do it when called for just though it wasn't called for this evening as planned to pick them up earlier...

Becky546 Mon 02-May-16 17:11:25

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witsender Mon 02-May-16 17:13:17

It doesn't get dark for another 3 hours. Maybe she is 'tired' after having them over night?

Just text her and say "ok, why don't you drop them back when you're ready?" If she says no then she isn't being unreasonable.

IceMaiden73 Mon 02-May-16 17:13:29

Go and pick them up - she has looked after them for you so I think YABU to expect her to drop them off when it was agreed you would collect them

gingergenie Mon 02-May-16 17:13:50

Then just explain its a school night and they need to be home by xxxtime. If she can't drop them home, say you'll be there to collect. It's a school night. Who cares if she thinks you're uptight? She's not the one wrangling them out of bed tired and grumpy in the morning!!!

Squeegle Mon 02-May-16 17:15:17

For those who don't understand about not driving in the dark, it's not about being scared, it is that for many people particularly those of us over 40, their eyesight is much worse in the dark and they find it much more challenging. Especially an unfamiliar journey.

Timetogrowup2016 Mon 02-May-16 17:15:34

Their your kids ! She can't complain.

gingergenie Mon 02-May-16 17:16:14

Icemaiden and witsender - SIL put the OP off when she was due to collect at midday.

crayfish Mon 02-May-16 17:18:48

Are you in the UK? It won't be dark for ages!

Maryz Mon 02-May-16 17:29:48

It's only half five. When is dark?

I'd go and get them, at least then you know they'll get to bed in time.

lavenderhoney Mon 02-May-16 17:37:26

Just go and get them. They are your children and you need them home. They probably want to come home anyway, if they aren't used to being away.

Can you negotiate a pick up time so that the other SIL and her DC get to at least see them but you can still drive before it gets really dark? Shouldn't be dark for a bit. You could go over now?
I don't like driving at night either so YANBU for everyone to take that into account. It does affect safety, especially for some people, and not everyone is happy with that.

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