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To be annoyed DH knows nothing about female anatomy

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Sproutieboolaa Sun 01-May-16 22:04:38

DH, to whom I've been married for 15 years, and with whom I've had 3 children, was astonished yesterday when I pointed out that a vulva includes 2 holes. I had to show him a diagram.

Aibu to find this really annoying? I mean I had noticed I did all the childbearing work but he clearly didn't bother to look at a single book or website about pregnancy or even pay attention in all those birth classes. I am still cross.

U2HasTheEdge Sun 01-May-16 22:06:11

I would have just laughed at his stupidity. I certainly wouldn't be cross.

orchidnap Sun 01-May-16 22:07:29

id be wonderng did he not do biology at school??

Lumpylumperson Sun 01-May-16 22:08:21

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Sproutieboolaa Sun 01-May-16 22:09:03

I did laugh! And asked about biology. (No, not that part anyway). He's not British.

YvaineStormhold Sun 01-May-16 22:09:41

I've read women on here saying the same thing as your DH grin

I have to say, it twists my melon a bit. I can't work out why sex causes cystitis if it all doesn't go through the same hole, or why they tell you to wee after sex.


Sproutieboolaa Sun 01-May-16 22:10:24

Actually, it took me a while to believe he wasn't taking the piss, it seemed so idiotic. I am cross though. Maybe because he's a bit sexist in other ways and I'm projecting though, that's really why I'm canvassing opinions.

CakeNinja Sun 01-May-16 22:10:35

Why are you cross at all about this?
I didn't even read any books or go to pregnancy classes!
So he's not clued up. Does he really need to know what hole you piss out of?!

LiviaDrusillaAugusta Sun 01-May-16 22:10:36

I only found that out on MN blush

NinaSimoneful Sun 01-May-16 22:11:31

Who tells you to wee after sex?

orchidnap Sun 01-May-16 22:11:42

Yvaine because all the friction means bacteria gets pushed up into the urethra.

Sproutieboolaa Sun 01-May-16 22:11:47

Yvaine, that's to send bacteria that might be working their way up the urethra packing afaik.

80sMum Sun 01-May-16 22:12:17

Goodness OP, that is pretty basic biology! I am astounded that an adult would not be aware of it! Back to school for your DH, methinks!

Lumpylumperson Sun 01-May-16 22:12:40

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LiviaDrusillaAugusta Sun 01-May-16 22:12:41

I don't think you can blame him for not knowing something that a lot of women don't know!

ThroughThickAndThin01 Sun 01-May-16 22:13:54


That doesn't mean he knows nothing about female anatomy

SillyBub Sun 01-May-16 22:14:44

My DH, who has an A level in Biology, once argued, yes argued with me that there was only one hole and women urinate out of their vaginas. 10 years later I'm not entirely sure he believes me.

scarednoob Sun 01-May-16 22:19:02

I remember a biology exam when I was at school - I hadn't bothered to revise that bit so just drew a bracket around the whole lot and wrote VAGINA next to it blush

ShatnersBassoon Sun 01-May-16 22:20:07

Yeah, I didn't know this either, until I was in labour and a midwife mentioned it in passing. I nodded sagely while my mind was blown.

I knew my bladder wasn't in my vagina, but I thought the pipe from my bladder joined up somewhere higher up leaving just one general entry/exit point. I'm still not convinced that my anatomy is correct.

Quietattheback Sun 01-May-16 22:20:20

YANBU - But, during a recent hospital stay I ended up in a bizarre conversation with my 40 year old friend where I had to inform her that catheters are inserted into the ureathra and not the vagina. She was totally unaware that women had a third hole <mind boggles>.

arandomname Sun 01-May-16 22:20:25

SillyBub wow!

If there was a mansplaining award he should win it!

maisiejones Sun 01-May-16 22:21:34

It's not just men though. Some years ago I asked an outpatient for a urine specimen. She was about 23/24 and seemed quite bright. She looked horrified and said she couldn't produce one as she was menstruating and didn't have another tampon with her. I asked her why that was a problem and she looked at me as if I was mad as 'you have to take your tampon out to pee'. I gave her a quick lesson in female anatomy. She was astounded!

Hassled Sun 01-May-16 22:22:32

I don't think I knew this stuff until I was an adult. I don't think O Level Biology in the early 80s went into too much detail. Tackle the sexism, but don't get sidelined by the lack of anatomical knowledge.

LastGirlOnTheLeft Sun 01-May-16 22:23:21

Wow!! I am shocked at people's ignorance. Some people really are just STUPID!

CuntyMcCuntface Sun 01-May-16 22:24:16


HTH grin

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