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To not want my friend to bring another friend along when she comes to stay

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TigerPath Sat 30-Apr-16 20:36:09

We recently moved to the South Coast, to a popular holiday town.

One of my friends is keen to visit, we arranged a date, she is coming for a long weekend. She has now asked if she can bring a friend, a woman I've never met! She wants someone to share the driving with (it's a 5-hour drive) and the cost of petrol. I suspect she is also a bit nervous as she's shy and has never met my DH or stayed overnight before.

Her friend sounds nice enough and they've known each other since school... but I don't really want her here! I was looking forward to time with my friend. I have a 9-month-old so we won't be going out in the evenings much but equally I don't want to be left at home while they go out! I don't want my home used as a base for 'their' holiday. Also there's the extra expense of hosting another person.

Space isn't an issue as we have an ensuite guestroom with twin beds, but I feel uncomfortable having a stranger stay.

AIBU to say no?

VimFuego101 Sat 30-Apr-16 20:38:26

Of course YANBU. She's using you as a hotel.

Justmuddlingalong Sat 30-Apr-16 20:38:31

If you are running a hotel then YABU. If you are running a home, then no, absolutely not BU to say no.

whois Sat 30-Apr-16 20:41:16

Uh, no that's a strange request. Will totally change the dynamic. Why on earth would this other person want to come and stay anyway??

FlowerOfTheWest Sat 30-Apr-16 20:42:12

No, YANBU, I wouldn't want someone I had never met before staying with me either. But your friend is kind of in the same position as she has never met your DH, so she's also staying with a stranger and is maybe nervous about that and wants her other friend along for moral support.
Is there any way they could both stay in a B and B and just meet up with you in the daytime? It does sound like they want a holiday which is not really fair on you. You invited your friend and it changes the dynamics having someone else along. I know it's awkward, but if it was me, I'd have to say something.

MeadowHay Sat 30-Apr-16 20:44:18

No, YANBU, and it's extremely rude to ask someone who is hosting you if you can also bring a friend i.e. another person for them to host! I am gobsmacked that someone would even ask that, especially if it's someone you have never met before!

Penvelopesnightie Sat 30-Apr-16 20:47:01

My new sil did this to me . I invited her for a weekend with me ( in the country) and she then asked if she could bring her sister is never met . So I just said " I invited you so we could spend some time together and relax , I don't know your sister and would feel uncomfortable ".

Butttons Sat 30-Apr-16 20:48:09

This happened to me when I lived abroad - i invited a friend to stay and she invited her friend along for the ride. I was quite put out at the time as I felt like my company wasn't "enough" IYKWIM and felt like she was just using me as a base while she and her friend had a good time


NoCapes Sat 30-Apr-16 20:48:40

Of course you're not

howtorebuild Sat 30-Apr-16 20:50:16

The friend sounds like she could be prone to be pushed around and may be pleased you're saying no to the extra guest.

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