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to not want a deer in my freezer?

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PissPotPourri Fri 29-Apr-16 19:29:37

So we're putting the DC to bed earlier and DH casually drops into conversation that he will take them tomorrow morning to see his friend and pick up a deer. Not stopping there, he explains that they will have to skin the deer and chop it up for the freezer, at which point dc1 (4) dissolves into floods of tears. Luckily dc2 (2) wasn't paying much attention.
I am 33 weeks pregnant with dc3 and in the process of filling the limited remaining space in our upright freezer (NB not chest freezer!) with batch cooked meals in preparation for the busy time ahead and do not want the space to be filled with every conceivable cut of venison. Not that it would fit...nowhere near.
AIBU to have subsequently told DH that there is no way we will be collecting the deer tomorrow and that he was absolutely thoughtless to have gone into such detail with the DC?
In his defense, DH grew up in a rural area of a country where all aspects of farming and subsequent butchery were par for the course, and I love venison and will always welcome the odd joint of it during the season. I therefore don't think he's a complete knob, but just thoughtless in terms of space, timing (having not discussed it with me previously) and having been quite so detailed with the DC. AIBU?

TrinityForce Fri 29-Apr-16 19:31:30


Didn't he realise he couldn't fit it in the freezer right now? Dafty

PissPotPourri Fri 29-Apr-16 19:52:01

Nope. I think he thinks where there's a will and all that. Would probably chuck out other stuff to make room! (Better not even think about it with my triple pack of double dip peanut butter magnums...)

BarbaraofSeville Fri 29-Apr-16 19:53:40

I've got a new second freezer being delivered on Sunday, partly for bulk meat purchases.

I'll have it smile. But seriously, I feel your pain. Crammed freezer plus more stuff that needs freezing = stress.

And obviously he should know that dealing with the reality of killing and eating bambi needs dealing with sensitively with young DCs.

BarbaraofSeville Fri 29-Apr-16 19:54:33

Eat the magnums tonight.

Every little helps wink

sunnydayinmay Fri 29-Apr-16 19:55:33

He was probably a bit excited and not thinking properly. Obviously you are completely NBU, and he just needed telling.

oldlaundbooth Fri 29-Apr-16 19:57:07

Do you live in the UK?

PissPotPourri Fri 29-Apr-16 19:58:27

Great advice, I like it.
I should possibly add that I'm on child care duty single handed for the entire bank holiday weekend too due to DH converting our loft space on his own.
Deer butchery is going to take up a lot of precious, precious time. I think he's underestimated that too.

PissPotPourri Fri 29-Apr-16 19:59:06

Yes in the UK? Why? After some deer?

Crispbutty Fri 29-Apr-16 20:00:15

oh dear...

(sorry) ....

scribblegirl Fri 29-Apr-16 20:00:20

YABU, I'd take your arm off for some venison. Lovely grin

However your DH is massively U for a) not consulting on limited freezer space and b) mentioning it in front of a child who hears 'deer' and thinks 'bambi'!

He likely didn't think and is now being optimistic (I have one who is that way inclined). I would sigh, tell him he can work out how to fit it in and relax. With a magnum.

And I'm not even pregnant wink

RiverTam Fri 29-Apr-16 20:04:09

yanbu with regard to space in the freezer. However I would expect a 4yo to know that the meat in their plate was once a living animal and is now a dead animal. Where does he think meat comes from?

FrancesNiadova Fri 29-Apr-16 20:05:03

Yummmmmm, braids slowly in red wine & serve with redcurrant jelly or, flash fry in a pan, leaving the inside pink. Serve with crushed potatoes, green beans & red cabbage. Oooohhh yessss!

FrancesNiadova Fri 29-Apr-16 20:06:55

Braise, kindle!

MooseBeTimeForSnow Fri 29-Apr-16 20:07:11

A deer? It's Moose round these parts. Now them fuckers take up some space!

elephantoverthehill Fri 29-Apr-16 20:09:53

Oh deary, deary me. Get another freezer.

Natsku Fri 29-Apr-16 20:10:31

Mmm send that deer this way!!

Just tell him he can take only the best part and then he has to cook it for you whenever the fancy for it strikes you.

Reminds me of when my grandad called us once and told my mum that he had got a reindeer. Now he lived in Lapland so the idea that he had an actual live reindeer was very plausible so my mum asked where he was keeping it... in the freezer! grin

PissPotPourri Fri 29-Apr-16 20:12:37

Rivertam I couldn't agree more. And o would hope it was obvious from my OP that there isn't much of a sentimental approach to meat in our household.
But it's one thing knowing where your meat comes from, and another to talk about skinning and chopping up the deer...especially at bedtime when hysteria is never far away.

PissPotPourri Fri 29-Apr-16 20:15:20

Moose, I bet! shock
Am thinking I should have said yes and just taken orders from you lot.

Gide Fri 29-Apr-16 20:50:18

I'd be ecstatic, but then I'm weird that way! (Plus, I have room, where are you?!)

Maybe DH didn't need to be so frank with DCs, although I'd want them to know where meat comes from ie not shrink wrapped packages in the supermarket, just not so brutally, perhaps.

nobilityobliges Fri 29-Apr-16 21:02:18

I'd be a bit pissed off if someone vetoed what I could put in my own freezer tbh. Can't you compromise and make sure he agrees to take care of the cooking when the baby comes? Surely if he agrees to cook something fresh every few days you don't need to freeze the batches?

KeepitDown Fri 29-Apr-16 21:08:33

I could look after those Magnums for you. grin

penisbeakerlaminateflooringetc Fri 29-Apr-16 21:14:46

Unless your DC's are vegetarians, YABU to be upset he told them where meat comes from.

YANBU to not let him steal your valuable freezer space! (Although I'd love some venison in mine...)

PissPotPourri Fri 29-Apr-16 21:17:59

To a degree Nobility, it's just that there isn't any room already, let alone with my plans to try and get ahead (although capable and well intentioned, DH is self employed and doesn't take paternity leave and realistically is unlikely to do much cooking). It's only the bottom half of a fridge freezer, and by the time you've got chips, fish fingers, peas, sweetcorn, a spare leaf etc etc the freezer is full bar maybe a drawer. That is really not going to fit a whole deer!

Wordsaremything Fri 29-Apr-16 21:19:05


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