AIBU to hide this friends' posts on Facebook

(38 Posts)
Cornishclio Fri 29-Apr-16 18:42:49

A friend of mine is constantly posting photos of her and her DH having meals out, sometimes alone, sometimes with friends or going walking at National Trust places. It is every day almost as they are retired. I find it quite tedious so have hidden her posts and am seeing her this evening and I know the first thing she will ask is have I seen her Facebook photos. Do other people do that? It just seems like constant bragging and not at all interesting after the first 100 photos of them with a glass of wine in their hand. AIBU?

EatShitDerek Fri 29-Apr-16 18:44:31

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Custardo Fri 29-Apr-16 18:44:43

I don't yabu - just say " probably....you know what my memory is like haha " or something similar

that's my default

Sandbrook Fri 29-Apr-16 18:46:26

Just say no you have not seen them.
Just because she posts pictures on fb does not mean you have to look at them

BuggerLumpsAnnoyed Fri 29-Apr-16 18:48:00

This post is to mumsney what her posting pictures of her food is to Facebook.

BuggerLumpsAnnoyed Fri 29-Apr-16 18:48:17

*mumsnet

Squiff85 Fri 29-Apr-16 18:49:02

Surely if she was on there moaning about her life, her back ache, that she was skint that you'd moan too?

I hate this, people are never happy!

Fratelli Fri 29-Apr-16 18:49:07

Hmm you sound a bit jealous. Just hide them if you don't want to look at them and say you haven't seen them. I really don't understand the issue confused

minniewinnie Fri 29-Apr-16 18:52:22

I don't think you're BU, I have people I am friends with but I'm not bothered about seeing every single update, so I've unfollowed them. It doesn't hurt their feelings, as they don't know.

If she goes out of her way to ask you about her photos it sounds a little desperate, maybe she's seeking some external validation? If it were me I probably tell her I didn't see them and leave it at that

ExasperatedAlmostAlways Fri 29-Apr-16 18:53:47

Iv unfollowed loads of people even a close friend who is quite frankly a pain in the are on Fb. It's embarrassing because iv had at least five of my other friends who are acquaintences with her mention to me how annoying she is on it. She isn't like that in real life. So when she asks did you see X on fb I just say no sorry I never seen that on my time line.

One day she asked about three different things and it felt awkward like she suspected. So now I go on every so often and like a few things and will have a quick look before we catch up.

I would delete it but my dh works away in different countries and we keep in touch via messenger and I like seeing his and his workmates different pics of places they are.

Oldraver Fri 29-Apr-16 18:55:38

Jus5t have a quick look on her timeline...pick a place she has been too and say "Oh what was x like ?"

PartyShit Fri 29-Apr-16 19:00:06

I'm new to Facebook and the posts you're describing sound much better than the shite that comes up on my timeline everyday. Mine is filled with passive aggressive messages that I don't believe are actually aimed at anyone; 'to the haters: you can try to keep me down but I'll just keep getting back up and showing you what I'm made of' hmm yes, ok settle down sausage.

I'd quite like seeing photos of restaurants and NT places, I'd see it more as inspiration on where I might like to go or avoid in future!

TheNotoriousPMT Fri 29-Apr-16 19:16:07

I had a bit of a paddy a while back (see username) and unfollowed everyone who'd posted anything I found irritating on Facebook over a period of four days.

I now get updates from about six people. Life is better. I am less irked and spend less time on fb and more time on MN

I do, however, have a quick nosey on friends' pages occasionally, so that they don't twig.

RuthyToothy Fri 29-Apr-16 19:17:30

YANBU to hide the pictures if they are irritating to you.

YABU to start a thread about it - either do it or don't do it, but don't ask for validation on it. It's a non-issue.

RiverTam Fri 29-Apr-16 19:19:24

FB is inherently narcissistic, nobody posts anything on there except in the hope of getting likes for it. Just hide their posts, you don't have to unfollow them. The minutiae of other people's lives is incredibly dull.

TheNaze73 Fri 29-Apr-16 20:00:56

YABU. Totally, what other people do, is their business. It's only bloody Facebook!

MistressMerryWeather Fri 29-Apr-16 20:04:34

What do you post on FB Cornish?

MrsHathaway Fri 29-Apr-16 20:20:41

"Facebook's algorithm is really weird. I don't see everyone's updates."

This is true even of people you haven't hidden. There's an ongoing debate about how to overcome it (half solved).

Gide Fri 29-Apr-16 20:28:48

YANBU. FB is different things to different people, I like the headlines, not the narcissistic duck pouts and constant updates/gazillion photos. I too have hidden some people due to their persistent posting of rubbish, but fair play, they post what they like, I just don't have to read it all.

Just tell her you're not on FB much, you don't have time etc.

unimagmative13 Fri 29-Apr-16 20:29:37

I unfollow people all the time.

Recently a friend who posts continuous pics of her toddler in a bin, in the dog bed, crying, throwing a tantrum.

The other a new mum and her newborn and constant moans about being a mum/no sleep/ proud mummy/ struggles of breastfeeding/formula hating/strong viewed bullshit.

I'd quite like to see pics of a retired couple drinking wine.

Buckinbronco Fri 29-Apr-16 20:31:36

Yes just say you haven't looked at FB much recently. It's not like being tested on homework, you don't have to do it

Lighteningirll Fri 29-Apr-16 20:35:36

Don't think that people post just for likes my mil lives abroad and her family is spread out over the Uk as a family we all post a lot it keeps us connected and she loves it. I love timehop so I often post days put etc so I get a nice memory jog.

Utini Fri 29-Apr-16 20:45:09

I'm on the verge of unfollowing a good friend who checks in everywhere. Car park, office, supermarket, home, every single day. Who would possibly be interested? Crazy!

Cornishclio Fri 29-Apr-16 23:02:28

Interesting replies thanks. Seems a mix but I have unfollowed her anyway and she did ask tonight but I said I had not seen the pics. I like fb to keep in touch with relatives/friends who live miles away and sometimes it is nice to see the photos of people's days out to give ideas. Each to their own I guess.

GraysAnalogy Fri 29-Apr-16 23:17:44

I fucking love EatShitDerek and agree 100%.

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