I am sure that there is a problem with my baby somehow but aibu to try to ignore it

(65 Posts)
ithinkitstimeforanamechange Fri 29-Apr-16 14:47:08

My baby is 6 months posted about half a million times about my worried on here so won't go into huge detail again but basically she gets lots of marks on her legs (and some on arms) little non blanching spots and larger areas (although still small) that look like bruises.

I have taken her to see three gps who tell me to ignore it and she must mark easily but she is my 6th child and I am convinced that is not the case there must be something causing it.

However, I also have PND and am on medication for it, feeling a lot better but it's obviously relevant background !

She has more of the little spots today one side of her leg has little bruises. I'm ignoring it even though I think it's a problem somehow .

Aibu to do this because there is nothing else I can do?

AnotherTimeMaybe Fri 29-Apr-16 14:53:08

What I d personally do, is gather some info from internet on that and ask GP what he thinks ... If he thinks it's rubbish and he gives you good reason fair enough. Also you might give them a clue as well - they do Google occasionally to get to a diagnosis

ithinkitstimeforanamechange Fri 29-Apr-16 14:55:44

I don't know what it could be really a couple of people on here suggested it could be something to do with a virus she had a while ago(I can't remember the name of it but something to do with affecting the blood clotting?) but she has had it too long for it to be that.

Googling brings up loads but the pictures are the same thing but far far worse!

Cinderbloom Fri 29-Apr-16 15:00:32

Could she be tested for Von Willebrands?

A diagnosis would be useful even if it was mild in case of safeguarding questions and when she gets older and more mobile.

ithinkitstimeforanamechange Fri 29-Apr-16 15:02:22

I'm not sure my gp basically tries to up my antidepressants if I ever mention it hmm

MattDillonsPants Fri 29-Apr-16 15:02:45

Low platelets is a common cause of this OP. Take her to the GP...you can call them and then come back here and we;ll hand hold while you wait. xxx

ithinkitstimeforanamechange Fri 29-Apr-16 15:02:55

My dh just says oh yeah it is odd and then moves on with his life but I can't!

mummyto2monkeys Fri 29-Apr-16 15:06:09

I would ask for a referral to a paediatrician, on the basis that your baby is bruising more easily than any of your other children. Tell them that as a Mother of six you have an instinct for when things are wrong and that you are feeling something is not right here.There must be something else that is worrying you, our maternal instincts kick in usually for a good reason. I read an article the other day saying that GP's need to take Mothers more seriously.

Does your baby use a baby walker/ door swing? The first time my baby used a door swing he came out in little purple
Spots that we panicked at the sight of, as did our g.p who called an ambulance straight away. At a&e we were asked if he had used a door swing/ walker and we explained that he had just used it that morning, they told us that they see man babies who develop these spots/bruises after using a door swing. The first thing we did when we got home was bin the door swing!

keely79 Fri 29-Apr-16 15:07:10

Perhaps get DH to take her to the doctor - less likely then that they would default to identifying your PND as the issue.

mummyto2monkeys Fri 29-Apr-16 15:07:45

Many not man, gosh what an image that puts in my head

ithinkitstimeforanamechange Fri 29-Apr-16 15:12:52

Matt I have seen the gp they don't even look properly one have me moisterizer one told me "all people have marks on their skin" the last which was only 3 days ago said it was because she's fair so marks easily.

They will say the exact same thing now. I actually do feel like I might be insanehmm

Attached a couple of examples of the small ones and the larger - you can't really see the larger very well in the photo but it's like little light bruises.

GinAndColonic Fri 29-Apr-16 15:17:26

Take pictures. Document it.

29th April - 3 marks on leg
30th April - whole leg seems mottled
1st May - 5 marks on leg. One large bruise.

You don't need to take a picture of every day of every mark but an example of each problem you are jotting down.

Also, may as well make a little note of how much they are eating and sleeping and any periods where they seem tired or in pain. Leave it a week or two and go back to a different doctor.

5minutestobed Fri 29-Apr-16 15:17:40

Hi Op, I posted on your other thread. Sorry you are still going through this. I would ask for a referral to a paediatrician. Have they done any tests at all? How long has it been going on for now?

ithinkitstimeforanamechange Fri 29-Apr-16 15:20:55

Yup still happening the same!

It's been a couple of months at least now I think?

She has never had any tests or anything. I asked about tests / referral but they basically said no and made it sound like I was cruel to want to put her through a blood test hmm

Cinderbloom Fri 29-Apr-16 15:31:48

Yes to photos and ask DH to take her and request a clotting screen. One of my children has a clotting deficiency so the subsequent DC were tested as newborns. Her specialists have always impressed on us the lack of knowledge / awareness the average GP or hospital doctor has and in my experience they're right.

P1nkP0ppy Fri 29-Apr-16 15:35:44

Ask for a second opinion and say that you'd like a referral to a paediatrician? I get so angry when mothers' concerns are dismissed like this 😡

NeverNic Fri 29-Apr-16 15:41:02

Go see your health visitor. They see babies everyday and might be able to reassure you that it is something that does need pursuing and you can ask them to make a note in the red book. Having that might give you the confidence to insist they look in to it.

Roonerspism Fri 29-Apr-16 15:44:40

Your PND should be irrelevant in terms of your GPs approach to the.

I agree it sounds odd and would push for a referral and blood test. Xx

ithinkitstimeforanamechange Fri 29-Apr-16 15:54:32

Never- my health visitor agreed it was odd and told me to see the gpgrin

ithinkitstimeforanamechange Fri 29-Apr-16 15:57:00

Can I insist on a test etc? They just say it's not needed I don't want to end up with social services called for me insisting she has something wrong with her or something.

My dh came the time when they gave her he moisterizer (after I posted on here last).

I did think maybe if dh took her to he out of Hours instead but I'm not sure they would do anything but tell us to see our gp

ithinkitstimeforanamechange Fri 29-Apr-16 15:58:04

Rooner it should be especially as my older children have only ever been once or twice each if that songs not like I am normally like this!

cjt110 Fri 29-Apr-16 16:07:03

Bit of a random one but I saw this a while back and it fascinated me. A lady's LO had marks on her back that looked like bruises but they were called [[ www.gosh.nhs.uk/medical-information-0/search-medical-conditions/mongolian-blue-spots Mongolian blue spots]] Could it be that?

ithinkitstimeforanamechange Fri 29-Apr-16 16:10:02

Cj I don't think so as they fade and disappear after a while and then different ones reappear in different places if you see what I mean!

cjt110 Fri 29-Apr-16 16:15:13

Ah damn, sorry I couldn't help - worth a post though

dowhatnow Fri 29-Apr-16 16:15:48

Ask your HV to talk to the doctor if she thinks it odd. Reiterate to her that your other children have rarely seen the doctor so you are not just a neurotic mother and ask her to pass that on.

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