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CopyAndPasteCuntingJournos Thu 28-Apr-16 17:12:13

My beautiful little cat was run over today and killed. I held her lifeless body and, after quite a few tears shed, I buried her in the garden.

Now it's not my dp's cat and he doesn't really like animals, fine I get this; however once he got back from work and told him he shrugged and said "it's just a cat, who cares". I'm livid. I get he doesn't like them much but anyone with an ounce of empathy would understand the sadness of losing something I've loved for 17 years. Right? Or am I being unreasonable?

pinkstinks Thu 28-Apr-16 17:13:50

flowers sorry about your cat. It's heartbreaking sad
Your dp sounds like a bellend.

GastonsPomPomWrath Thu 28-Apr-16 17:13:56

Yanbu. My cats are part of the family.

I'd leave the bastard.

LastInTheQueue Thu 28-Apr-16 17:14:13

First, I'm very sorry for the loss of your cat. They are never "just cats".

Second, your DP is a twat.

NeedACleverNN Thu 28-Apr-16 17:14:14

Your dp is an arse

Even if he hated the cat, he still should have given you a cuddle and said I'm sorry to hear that.

He needs to learn empathy

ghostyslovesheep Thu 28-Apr-16 17:16:24

awwww sad poor you flowers I love my cats - loosing one is always heartbreaking sad

he's an asshat xxxxxx

SweetieDrops Thu 28-Apr-16 17:17:33

Your DP is a wanker.

I'd be very tempted to hide something he loves and be all "it's just an Xbox/season ticket/etc who cares" when he wants to know where it is.

shockthemonkey Thu 28-Apr-16 17:17:51

I'm so, so sorry.

It hurts like hell.

Your DP is unbelievably thick

Charlesroi Thu 28-Apr-16 17:19:17

You know you are not being unreasonable. Ditch him, honestly. It doesn't matter whether he likes cats or not, the man doesn't have shred of empathy.

I'm so sorry about your furry friend.

Roobix04 Thu 28-Apr-16 17:19:55

Jesus your dp is awful! Even if he feels nothing about a poor helpless creature dying then surely he should still feel for the woman he supposedly loves! I'm very sorry about your cat.

neighbourhoodwoes Thu 28-Apr-16 17:20:45

He is an insensitive twat sad

LetThereBeCupcakes Thu 28-Apr-16 17:21:20

I'm so sorry. Your poor cat. flowers

Is your DP usually so cruel?

CopyAndPasteCuntingJournos Thu 28-Apr-16 17:22:59

Thank you everyone. I loved her lots, I'm a complete animals lover. I guess I just don't understand how he doesn't get it. Now he's huffing on the laptop because I'm being a "moody arsehole".

Seriously looking at him in a different light now angry

RonniePickering Thu 28-Apr-16 17:24:35

Sorry about your cat, and the fact your DP is an unfeeling arse-hole sad

Silverstreaks Thu 28-Apr-16 17:25:27

17 years of love and affection to and from your cat. It's bound to hurt and anyone that loves you will feel your pain.
YANBU he is.

CopyAndPasteCuntingJournos Thu 28-Apr-16 17:25:40

cupcakes he can be insensitive at times, yes, but I've always put that down to being quite self centred and pig headed. This is a new low even for him

LittleLionMansMummy Thu 28-Apr-16 17:27:38

Yanbu op and you know it. What an arse! Same thing happened to me a couple of months ago, so you have my deepest sympathy. My dad hates cats but still managed to show more empathy. So sorry for you flowers

ThisIslandGirl Thu 28-Apr-16 17:28:32

Yanbu at all.

I'm so sorry for your loss, thanksthat must have been such a nasty shock for you.

Horrified at the lack of sympathy from your dp. Regardless of how he felt about the cat he should care about you being upset.

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost Thu 28-Apr-16 17:29:38

oh God. I'm so sorry. You've had him for 17 years. And without warning. He has been taken. You must be torn apart.
Your DP sounds like the king of insensitive pricks.
Yes he doesn't like animal, and he doesn't have to. Not everyone does, but. No it's not "just a cat". It's something that was very dear to you. It was a life.

Pipbin Thu 28-Apr-16 17:29:47

Poor baby, poor you.

It is very easy to say LTB and I generally say it in jest, but this time I mean it. If he cannot see how this affects you and be sympathetic then I think you should be asking some serious questions.

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost Thu 28-Apr-16 17:29:53


CopyAndPasteCuntingJournos Thu 28-Apr-16 17:31:24

Thank you littlelionman, that's all I needed -a hug - but this? This I'm going to struggle to forgive.

NeedACleverNN Thu 28-Apr-16 17:31:32

I echo what a pp put

Does he have something he really loves?

The tele? X box? Golf clubs? Season ticket for football? Beer?

Hide them or get rid of them. When he complains. "It's only xxxx. Who cares?"

eatyouwithaspoon Thu 28-Apr-16 17:32:40

Even if he didnt like your cat he could be sympatheticflowers

tibbawyrots Thu 28-Apr-16 17:32:47

flowers so sorry about your pet cat xx

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