Hi, would really appreciate outside views on this as people close to me tend to agree with me but I am not sure if it is to save my feelings?
For 3 years me and dp tried for a baby, I have endometriosis and we found out his speech count very low. Told we needed ICSI at the fertility clinic, we started the going through the preliminary bloods and examinations - history etc, signed the papers and were due to start treatment.
His opinion was, much like mine- I don't love this but we have no choice etc.
Then 1 week before we were due to start ICSI I found out I had conceived naturally. Brilliant miracle! I have. 6 year old healthy son and believe me I know how lucky I am.
Fast forward to last year- I always wanted to donate eggs- since I know the feeling of heartbreak- I went to the same club and started the process,-aged 29.
They told me about egg sharing so I thought- after I have donated once- maybe next time I could do that!! Have a another child which would be a dream come true.
Clinic told me my AMH showed too low but wasn't so low I had to panic( it's 8)
Went and toldDP everything- was a little emotional - feeling like maybe we don't have that much time can we just go for it & do one round of ICSI- so I can not have any regrets.
He said- flat out NO
No- we have one child, we should be gresteful etc- but mainly because ( he's raised a Catholic) he believes IVF unnatural and fundamentally WRONG
I am distraught- am now very broody, also that I feel misled!!!
If he felt that way why attend 8 months of doctor appts at a fertility clinic and begin that process!?!
I have begun to resent him- and fear this could end the relationship TBH
It's become a bigger issue than the baby- I don't feel like he can really love me- I feel tricked, I feel a fool.
Also during these talks I suggested adoption as an alternative, mainly I want my son to have a sibling and handoff ten thought about this- again he says NO, can't see himself with another persons child
AIBU to be this upset???
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anjarose · 27/04/2016 14:04
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