I have a small baby, which is a conversation starter wherever I go, people love a baby, and it is lovely people want to celebrate him with me.
The thing is I always get asked if he is my first. He isn't, he is my fifth but I only get to hold four in my arms as dc4 was stillborn last year, I was overdue. I still love her so very much despite only getting to hold her for such a short amount of time. I don't feel any different about her than any on my other dc. So when I'm asked if the baby is my first I say he is my fifth, because to me there will always be five children in my heart.
Five is quite a lot, and people are often shocked and ask about the ages of the others, or the split of boys and girls, and it usually comes out that I lost dd2. Sometimes I'm ok and can handle having that conversation and other times, like this morning, I get teary, which isn't fair on the person who was just trying to make conversation.
So am I being unreasonable in saying 5 not 4 when talking about my dc, if it means I might end up breaking down on strangers? I so wish I could get to say 5 and go home and hold all 5 of them
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3littlebadgers · 27/04/2016 12:22
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