This is a bit of a rant, but I do want some opinions (hopefully back up).
I left exP when DS was a baby due to abuse - EA, VA, FA, threatening behaviour and him being a generally unpleasant self-centred person who didn’t show any interest in spending time with or helping out with DS.
Of course that changed when I left, and suddenly he did want and was ‘entitled’ to time with DS. I have gone out of my way to facilitate this, and he has had regular contact, but has always made unreasonable requests to continue to control the situation and punish me, which culminated in us going to court completely unnecessarily as he wouldn’t listen to people who told him his requests were unreasonable, and of course it cost a lot of money for us both and certainly caused stress, all for him to achieve nothing.
He regularly cancels contact with DS due to work commitments, and has also cancelled if he has social occasions he would rather go to than spend time with DS.
When DS returns from contact with exP he is not himself. He is tired, unsettled and extremely clingy. He’s still very young (pre school). Up until now he’s had no longer than a weekend with him, but there’s an agreement that this can start to be extended during the summer to a week. Though I worry about the potential impact on my son of extended contact, I have not tried to prevent this, and am always very positive to him about him spending time with his father, even when he is reluctant to go.
Now exP thinks it’s reasonable to ask for two weeks with him in quick succession i.e. a full week with him, a week with me (though I would be working full time during this week), and another week with him. I really can’t see how this is in DS’s best interests, and I worry about the impact on him. It just suits exP’s diary as he has other (social) plans that mean alternatives don’t suit him.
So, AIBU to insist the two weeks must be more than one week apart?
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bluecashmere · 25/04/2016 09:58
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