Next door neighbours kids - WWYD?

(4 Posts)
Littlefluffyclouds81 Thu 21-Apr-16 20:20:02

We had new NDNs move in a couple of months back. I heard from the old NDNs that they were gypsies, with a fighting dog and 4 kids. I was slightly concerned but it all seemed fine, the fighting dog was well contained, the parents are really lovely and friendly, and so are the kids.

The biggest 3 kids play outside a lot. Our gardens have a low fence between them, so my dd2 soon got chatting to the kids and they started coming over and playing in my garden as its got more space to play and a big trampoline. All fine. They are all 2-3 years older than my dd2, but they all have a good time playing together.

The first time they came over they went up to dd2's room with her and she gave them some little toys, just shopkins and stuff. What I didn't catch onto for a few days was that EVERY time they came over they would go into her room, find things they wanted, and convince dd2 to let them have it. As dd2 is younger than them and really wants to be their friend, she would agree, even if it's stuff she actually wanted.

As soon as I realised what was happening, I had a fairly stern word with them that this was going to stop now, that they were welcome to come and play, but the blagging of toys was not going to be happening anymore. I also got them to return the things that dd2 really wanted back.

So lo and behold, it transpires that this evening it happened again. Just one of the dc got my dd2 to give him something, he must have remembered it from a previous visit because they haven't actually come in the house now since I last had a word.

I am planning on having a word with the child involved, but don't really know what to say. I made myself perfectly clear last time but it obviously didn't have much effect. I know I have to get them to return it out of principle, otherwise this is never going to stop, but on the other hand I feel really tight doing that, as they have told me that they don't have any toys at their house, which I believe. It's also something that dd2 doesn't actually want. WWYD about the whole situation?

fiftyval Thu 21-Apr-16 20:27:53

Sorry I can't get beyond the casual reference to a 'fighting' dog. Really? If so then surely you should be contacting RSPCA as dog fighting is not only very cruel but also illegal.

Littlefluffyclouds81 Thu 21-Apr-16 20:30:28

Ah - just to clarify the fighting dog. It was indeed a fighting dog when it was young, but was then rescued by the NDNs. It's old now but still believes it's a fighting dog, so they keep it well shut in and don't take it anywhere it might encounter other dogs, as it ain't too friendly.

hellswelshy Thu 21-Apr-16 21:10:26

Could you perhaps sort some older or unwanted toys out and ask if they could make use of them? And then tell them they have to return the other item as your dd has been told not to give it away? Kind of a firm message but also some kindness too may work.

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