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to ask what age you stopped/will stop parental controls?

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JSarah Wed 20-Apr-16 17:07:24

Hiya,

My children are babies, so it isn't a concern at all, yet!

I'm just thinking about the future and different discipline, etc. we will use, so we are both aware and consistent.

I'll of course have parental controls, etc.

However, what age do you stop that? What age do you stop getting to read their messages? What age do you stop looking at what they're posting and doing online?

Thank you x

Arfarfanarf Wed 20-Apr-16 17:14:01

When they are ready. It's a gradual process. You dont just say hi happy xth birthday we're turning off the filters grin
You do it bit by bit over time and as you are teaching and guiding them. You make judgements and you give them a bit of freedom and you assess how they're doing. You tweak as required and eventually they're good to go. Fully grown adults responsible and ready to face the world ☺

What age depends entirely on the child. Mine are 15 and 16 and we are nowhere near yet. They both have sn.
There are children their age who are very independant.

You cant put an age on it. It is about the individual child and what they are and are not ready for.

Arfarfanarf Wed 20-Apr-16 17:15:06

I dont quite know how my smile turned into a blush.
hmm

Lweji Wed 20-Apr-16 17:16:44

It depends how much you trust them. It's a combination of individual and age.

30? wink

purplevase Wed 20-Apr-16 17:19:04

My 13 year old knows the PIN number for our cable TV so now.

But I've got the filter on the internet which should block the worst porn etc and I see no reason to lift that whatever age he is as I don't want to accidentally come across it myself.

FlyingElbows Wed 20-Apr-16 17:21:08

Depends entirely on the child. At 12 my daughter was trustworthy, honest and very mature for her age. At 12 my eldest son is chaos and I wouldn't trust him not to burn the house down! Same genes, same upbringing, totally different parental monitoring needs.

TitaniumSpider Wed 20-Apr-16 17:21:30

My eldest is a 6th form and can look at whatever they want, my youngest is about to start high school and they have a long wait before I take off the internet controls; probably at 16. I have 'forgotten' when my eldest didn't have them, it's not a set age but more when they are mature enough.

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