That this is the teacher's fault

(172 Posts)
TrixieBlue2016 Wed 20-Apr-16 10:55:20

On Monday DSS brought home a letter asking permission for him to have his hair chalked as they are doing a project. DSS has shoulder length light blonde hair. We were asked to provide chalk that can be washed out.

So yesterday I sent him in with a stick of green hair chalk. I picked DSS up from after school and the bottom 4 inches of his hair was green. I took him home and got him to go wash his hair. The green didn't come out.

I asked DSS had he done it himself or did the teacher colour his hair. He said the teacher spray painted his hair. I checked his bag and the stick of chalk was unused.

Long story short the green still hasn't completely come out. I sent a note explaining that his hair was washed half a dozen times but it's still green and also the chalk provided wasn't used.

I have just had a call from the HM about DSS hair, it is unacceptable apparently. HM agrees the teacher did it and used a colour spray not the chalk provided however DSS is still at fault and has broken the rules. HM says DSS agreed to have the teacher use the spray. DSS will lose golden time on Friday and will be on report until it washes out. This means no afternoon playtime.

I have asked to speak to the teacher when I collect DSS from school today. HM is going to speak to his teacher.

It is clear to me that the teacher is at fault not DSS. Aibu? DSS is 10.

Roobix04 Wed 20-Apr-16 10:57:26

The HM sounds like an idiot. Totally teachers fault. You'd given permission for and provided hair chalk not bloody spray!

pointythings Wed 20-Apr-16 10:57:26

This is absolutely the teacher's fault. Your DS is 10, how was he supposed to know the spray would not wash out? Time to get tough with rhe school.

OddBoots Wed 20-Apr-16 10:57:42

YANBU, they are punishing him for something the school did to him! You can get colour stripping treatments for hair that would hopefully do the trick if you want to remove it but the school shouldn't be expecting you to.

Shannaratiger Wed 20-Apr-16 10:58:24

The head is totaly out of order punishing Ds. The teacher should be the one in trouble. I would be straight up the school to complain!

noblegiraffe Wed 20-Apr-16 10:58:36

Ask the head if he really expects your DSS to refuse to follow teacher instructions as that is apparently what he expected him to do.

How bizarre of the head.

Floralnomad Wed 20-Apr-16 10:59:38

Utterly ridiculous ,I hope you checked that the teacher has also lost any breaks / free time /privileges for the same amount of time . The only thing I would have done differently to yourself is I would actually have gone in and complained this morning about the spray being used .

Roobix04 Wed 20-Apr-16 11:00:23

And my dsis would have been allergic to the spray but not the chalk so just going ahead and doing it without asking is just ridiculous.

Arfarfanarf Wed 20-Apr-16 11:00:46

That is ridiculous. I'd be asking them to confirm in writing that he is being punished because the teacher spray painted his hair and it won't come out.

Not because I'd want to do anything with that letter but just because if they have to write it down they will likely realise how ridiculous their position is!

SaucyJack Wed 20-Apr-16 11:01:17

What the F?

Its like a CBeebies adaptation of Kafka.

acasualobserver Wed 20-Apr-16 11:01:49

I think it's the teacher who should lose their golden time!

DayToDayGlobalShit Wed 20-Apr-16 11:02:06

Go and see the HM. spray his hair green. Leave. Wait at gate tomorrow. Discuss how unacceptable it is for him to have green hair.

andintothefire Wed 20-Apr-16 11:02:16

Can't you just cut that part of his hair if it can't be dyed or won't wash out? It seems a bit odd to have him going around with green hair at the bottom. Did the HM suggest that his hair should be cut?

But YADNBU in thinking that the situation is the teacher's fault. I would be very annoyed at needing to cut his hair because of the teacher's irresponsibility.

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost Wed 20-Apr-16 11:02:32

So the teacher put green hair spray on your dss's hair after you had provided green chalk, and your dss is "at fault". WTF is that all about. Am I missing something.
YNBU.

Herewegoagainfolks Wed 20-Apr-16 11:02:44

I'd be going ballistic - the child should not be loosing his golden time because he did as the teacher asked.

Surely he's not the only child in in this position though? Was he the only one sprayed?

ollieplimsoles Wed 20-Apr-16 11:02:51

Lol no afternoon play time because of a mistake the stupid teacher made?

Hm is on a huge power trip by the sounds of it.

Just tell her that this is the teachers fault, he's not on report and he certainly will bec going on for play time.

I think the teacher responsible should also have to pay you back for the chalk too.

Nanny0gg Wed 20-Apr-16 11:03:31

The only thing I would have done differently to yourself is I would actually have gone in and complained this morning about the spray being used .

^^ This. I'd have been raging about it actually.

And if the head won't see reason I would escalate to CoG with a formal complaint about the spraying without permission as well as the punishment.

Good job he wasn't allergic!

YorkieDorkie Wed 20-Apr-16 11:04:28

What a farce! If I'd done that to a pupil, my HT would have made an example of me!!!

I once gently told a parent that I suspected their child may have headlice and advised them to check themselves to be sure. That parent then made a complaint to the HT.

I'm amazed the HT is making an example of DSS.

Nanny0gg Wed 20-Apr-16 11:04:44

BTW, what was the point of the excercise?

Rosa Wed 20-Apr-16 11:05:37

Totally not ok - sorry I would create a stink as it is not your dss fault. Can you try a hair dresser and see if they have anything that could help? Dd had hair mascara at new year that did not come out - pink. School was very understanding and we tried to plait / hide it until it came out - it took 3 weeks .

Dontcallus Wed 20-Apr-16 11:05:54

Oh my, no way would I allow my child to miss playtime due to teacher error! Would ask for confirmation in writing too. Just speechless!

VioletTea Wed 20-Apr-16 11:06:18

Bloody hell! shock
On what planet is it your DSS's fault that he complied with what his teacher told him to do and on what planet should he lose privileges, playtime etc because of this?!
I'd be spitting bullets OP. YADNBU

VioletTea Wed 20-Apr-16 11:08:58

So by the HM's logic, your dss should have said "no" and refused to go along with the teacher? And because he didn't (because he's like, 10) he is to be made an example of?!

RaeSkywalker Wed 20-Apr-16 11:09:06

It's the teacher's fault, they were the responsible adult. How was your DSS to know it wouldn't was out? He should not be punished for this- I'd be stamping my feet big time.

RaeSkywalker Wed 20-Apr-16 11:09:21

*wouldn't wash out

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