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Neighbour enquiring as to how much you earn?!?!

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Alasalas2 Tue 19-Apr-16 22:10:42

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EatShitDerek Tue 19-Apr-16 22:13:28

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Gide Tue 19-Apr-16 22:13:36

Bang out of order and I would have gently told him that it was none of his fucking business. Incredibly crass of him.

Alasalas2 Tue 19-Apr-16 22:19:09

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Alasalas2 Tue 19-Apr-16 22:20:46

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Alasalas2 Tue 19-Apr-16 22:21:59

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mrsmeerkat Tue 19-Apr-16 22:23:18

I agree it is nosey but if he usually ok you could laugh it off 'ooh a policeman wouldn't ask me that'

mrsmeerkat Tue 19-Apr-16 22:24:34

actually the mortgage thing goes a bit far for me. too invasive. is he implying something like benefits?

kitnkaboodle Tue 19-Apr-16 23:01:42

Some cultures find it acceptable to talk about money/salaries. Is he from a different culture?

oldestmumaintheworld Tue 19-Apr-16 23:05:05

The appropriate response to this kind of question is "I beg your pardon?" and raise one eyebrow. At least that's what I do when people are impertinent. They don't do it again.

abigamarone Tue 19-Apr-16 23:20:01

He's probably trying to work out if he can afford a car if he's mentioned wanting one. Still damn nosey though. It's the sort of question that I'd give vastly differing responses to, ranging from £50/week to £150grand a year (possibly in the same conversation)

Sheezus Tue 19-Apr-16 23:22:26

Not a neighbour but I was once asked how much my engagement ring cost.
I declined to answer and laughed it off.
She then asked to try it on. I handed it over and she put it on next to her own one and started to guess how much compared to hers?! Some people are just odd I think.

RandyMagnum Tue 19-Apr-16 23:25:57

I don't get the super secret nature people have of what they earn, I'll tell anyone who asks me how much I earn, it's not really that big a deal to me to keep it secret.

Alasalas2 Tue 19-Apr-16 23:32:38

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Alasalas2 Tue 19-Apr-16 23:34:56

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Alasalas2 Tue 19-Apr-16 23:36:23

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AugustaFinkNottle Tue 19-Apr-16 23:58:45

So what did you say when he asked?

Lockheart Tue 19-Apr-16 23:59:06

It's nosy and not very polite, but I wouldn't read anything into it past that. Perhaps he's read all the things in the news about high house prices and the difficulties younger people are having getting on to the housing ladder and was just curious? It's a bit off, but unless you find him going through your bins looking for bank statements it's the kind of thing I'd be inclined to shrug off. Especially since you say you're on good terms with him and his wife, so I'm guessing normally they must be perfectly nice people.

Alasalas2 Wed 20-Apr-16 00:08:43

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GarlicShake Wed 20-Apr-16 00:34:37

Some people just don't 'get' normal social boundaries, for any number of reasons. As long as you're getting along okay - and you do sound happy there! - it's your choice whether to share all the details or simply say you don't like talking about money/politics/religion/etc.

I confess I find British reticence about money pretty weird (I am British) but I've learned to observe the silence except when drunk.

Alasalas2 Wed 20-Apr-16 00:39:35

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