I think this has been done to death but I need a vent.
My 18 yr old son works full time and pays house keeping, he has two younger siblings and they are all expected to empty/load the dishwasher, fold and put away any clean laundry and I will let their rooms get to a certain point before I will ask them to clean them.
DS1 has the attic room which we have recently put a brand new en suite into.
When we have guests to stay they stay up there because of the en suite and it has a double futon. It's the nicest bedroom in the house (of the three kids rooms) and the pay off for that is it occasionally being used for guests.
Since DS1 has started his lastest job after a period of doing fuck all unemployment he seems to think he doesn't need to do anything around the house. He does work late in a bar and its FT (I also work FT) but he refuses to get up in the morning 15 minutes earlier than needed to empty the dishwasher etc. He will cook and not clean up after himself (I usually save him some dinner but he'll fry eggs/bacon in the day) leaves dirty crockery all over his room and his room is disgusting with litter, and dirty clothes stewn over it and the en suite (which needed doing but also with a view to having students in the future when he leaves which he says he wants to do) is getting trashed.
We have just had a row and he's sworn at me and said the reason he stays out all the time is so he doesn't have to come home and "do housework".
We have friends coming to stay in a few weeks and while I don't mind doing a tidy up and clean I do not expect to have to deep clean his room and chisel ten tonne of shit off a brand new toilet .
What do I do - charge him extra for cleaning as asking him and then it turning into a row is just getting me down - and spoiling my relationship with him. He seems to feel as he is 18 he no longer has to respect the house rules.
What do others expect from working children?
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Cutecat78 · 19/04/2016 16:59
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